to thinl this was unacceptable

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My ds has been with my family , he was very rude and had a tantrum, my family member proceeded to grab my sons face and scream in his face. I took him straight home and feel like I don't want to leave him alone with them again. I told him his behaviour was unacceptable but also told him that his aunts behaviour was wrong and not the way anyone should behave. Am I wrong to feel this way? I won't say anything to his aunt because she's been really poorly. But I do feel I want to steer clear for now.

Yanbu

no one should be grabbing a child's face, or anyone's face for that matter

how aggressive and frightening

Why won't you say anything just because she's been really poorly?

If she's well enough to grab your son's face and scream in it, she's well enough for you to let her know she's out of order.

Deep, I know this to be true. I'm really upset about it.

YANBU, he must have been really scared. How old is he?

Worra her illness is very serious and I don't want to upset her even though she was out of order.

YANBU and I'd be angry and upset too but if Auntie has been really poorly she may have come to the end of her tether just this once maybe? Only you know the answer to that. If so it might be best if you give it a while so you can both cool down and reflect and then speak to her, tell her how unacceptable her behaviour was but that you realise that DS was badly behaved too and have spoken to him about his manners. You could add that you understand how ill she's been feeling and that this might have caused her to act out of character and rather than say DS won't be left with her again ever keep it open, making no commitment other than to say that clearly she's not up to caring for someone else's child at the moment because of her health.