AIBU to be cross and tearful and sorry for myself - this about teenagers!

[marriedinwhite]

Just got home from work and it's been a hard and stressful week. It is the start of the Easter break and a week off and I was really looking forward to it but am now close to tears.

Was looking forward to a nice supper with the dc (17 and 13). DD was uber tired and not hungry enought to eat and wouldn't come to the table.

This is because the cleaner came today and she's too quiet and shy to talk to her so a quiet, shy girl who can't talk to the cleaner took the tube to Green Park changing at Earls Court, bought some very pretty chocs from the counter in Fortnums, ie, had to ask and tell the lady what she wanted, went to the loo in there and squirted perfume in front of the lady, bought a book in Waterstones and had an early tea on her own in the Japanese centre. Got a bit lost trying to find the Trocadero but found her way to Leicester Squre and came home from there. All this whilst I was at work and after I got a message at 11ish to say she was thinking of going to the Park.

Started cooking tea for DS and he was in a hurry so it got served up very quickly. He started banter and taking the **ss and I wasn't in the mood. He and I have had a row and tbh I;m not even sure what it was about , DD and he have had a row and she is in tears. He has had £10 off me to go out and has gone out in a strop - evidently he is more welcome at his best friend's house.

DH is not home yet and will probably be grumpy when he gets in and tell me he is going to work most of tomorrow.

I am almost in tears and really upset that the start of my holiday has got off so badly - selfish (no?). And if anyone can tell me how a 13 year old who can't talk to the cleaner can manage that lot on her own and claim to be too shy to say boo to a goose I shall be very very grateful.

Oh gosh, they've given it to you in bucket loads this evening! Pour yourself a glass of wine, and breathe deeply. They're teenagers. This is what they do.

Tomorrow will be a better day. Apparently. :)

Asking for something over the
Counter and wandering around by yourself is actually a lot easier than making small talk with your parents employee

I say that as a shy person irl

Yes tomorrow will be better and I can attest that shyness can be selective. I drive DH mad for being unable to ring for takeaway or talk to neighbours though my job is to call and meet with people all day!

dont let them ruin your fun! pour some wine, grab an easter egg and chow down

Since the Easter hols its amazing how the traffic on threads about teenagers has increased.

Feel your pain, I'm not even going into what my ds has done in the last week. Far too painful.

Glass of wine and get a hug from dh when he comes in.

Finished the first, pouring the second - big one . If there's a signal failure tonight - as there was last night - DS can bloody well walk home.

Sounds like your DD had a lovely day, I don't see the problem?

I agree with Kayano. I would even now feel awkward if I had a cleaner and I was home whilst she was here never mind as a teenager...

And shopping / asking the sales assistant what she wanted is pretty easy as you are can assume the correct 'role' (ie shopper) whereas as the daughter of people who employ a cleaner she probably did not know how to act...

Pour yourself a glass of wine and put your feet up. Tomorrow is another day!

Goodnightmoon! I can't call for a takeaway or ring any company in regards to direct debits/ insurance etc

I got my mum to ring John Lewis and order stuff for me... I'm 26!

I also work in a tech support role on the phone chatting to people all day long.

Shyness is a v strange thing.

I'm a savage bitch on t'internet though lol

oh what a rubbish evening you've had

PS don't fund DS if he's rude

Just a problem because I didn't have a clue what she was up to until she got home and might have said no. In central London all on her own (she might be 13 but she's got billowing blonde hair and the figure of an 18 year old!) because she felt she had to get out of the house to avoid the cleaner who she has known since she was knee high.

Asking for something over the
Counter and wandering around by yourself is actually a lot easier than making small talk with your parents employee

Yes I was thinking that - as someone who is fairly shy, and painfully shy as a teenager, I would definitely have been able to do the wandering around thing/ talking to shop assistants, but would have HATED making small talk with someone in my own house!! She sounds an independent girl despite her shyness - all credit to you as her mum!

I don't have teenagers, just little ones. I'm sure teenagers must drive you mad at times. I'm still coping with toddler tantrums and 5 year old friends issues here!
I'm sure your holiday will get better - sounds like you need to look after yourself a bit. If your dc are busy with their own or friends company then I'd go with pouring a big glass of wine too if I were you, and maybe a dvd and some nice nibbles :)

Kayano, funny isn't it? I made a reservation for Easter lunch and felt really proud!

Your daughter sounds fabulous - independent with expensive tastes. I'd be very proud if one of mine had had a lovely morning like that.

I'm 47 and I'll chat to anyone but I find it extremely hard to feel comfortable around my Mother's personal employees. I have no idea why.

Hope you have a better day tomorrow.

I'm not so cross with dd except she should have told me what she was planning but I am really cross with ds who wound me up on purpose. The 2nd wine is working though and am feeling more mellow. Can I open another bottle?

Oh yes. For Medicinal Purposes.