AIBU and unfair (not a Big Deal but a bit annoying!)

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DH is taking the train back from work tonight and wants to stop for a couple of pints afterwards once he gets to our station. He has never done this before because he drives to work (car died today). He wants me to fetch him when he is done. I have no idea what time that will be and neither does he. I have been working all week, too, though I work from home.

I want to have a glass of wine soon but will not be able to if I must go and fetch DH. I am shattered and don't really feel like going out later to get him (horrible me). I said that he should rather get a taxi or bus home then if he is staying for a few pints and is not able to tell me when he will be done - ie at the minute he does not know what time he will want me to fetch him.

So AIBU in saying that he could get a taxi home? Or am I being unfair and should I forgo my early glass (or more) of wine so that I can collect him later?

PS I will not be leaving the bastard, and I do worry about other bigger issues in our lives.

PPS DS was bottle fed and was in full time childcare with a childminder from the age of 6 months to just short of a year.

BTW, I am going out to get a ready meal for tea because I cannot be arsed to cook from scratch tonight, so will only be able to reply a bit later.

Why can't he walk home?

yanbu to tell him to get a taxi

YANBU, did he make you feel like you were or are you just having an attack of the guilts??

I would do it as a one-off, and my dh would do the same in return for me. But I don't think you're unreasonable if you really want a drink and he could get bus/taxi- so long as were the situation reversed, you would be happy to make your own way home and not expect him to turn out for you

So neither of Yabu!

I would quickly drink half a bottle of wine and tell him you are over the limit already so cant collect him. Taxi is I am sure fine, unless v expensive.

Can't you get him at the same time as getting your readymeal?

tell him to find his own way home. if he can't be arsed to give you a time, them fuck him

I say tell him to get a taxi. If he wants to stay out, that's one thing, but quite another to expect you to not do what you want, in order to act like his personal chauffeur.

Why would you ever think you were being unreasonable here? Why would it be considered reasonable to have someone just sitting at home waiting for them to phone for their lift?

Well, personally, I'd fetch dh in those circumstances, and he'd do the same for me. Bit of a one off - asked nicely, it''s nice to be able to do things for people you love sometimes.

I'd ring to say I'd pick him up at or he can get himself home, which would he rather?

Or, if no childcare issues, go down and join him

He'd like a drink, you'd like a drink. Taxis all round then. Just tell him what time you plan to pop the cork and he can have a lift before then if he wants. No drama needed.

1. Who is he having a drink with? If he's alone-then he might as well come home!
2. How did he get to the station this morning; did he walk? If he walked, he can walk home again.
3. How far is it? Could he get a cab?

DH wouldn't ask me to do this-he'd just walk or get a taxi. I think he's taking the piss a bit-he knows he's stopping you having the evening you intended in order that he can do what he wants.

I think its fine to ask him to get a taxi if you want a drink and relax and he can easilly get a bus or taxi, especially if he can't even give you a time. he could get comfortable and be hours!

I'd say get a taxi. That way you get your glass of wine and he gets to take the opportunity for a few swift ones when he gets to the station. Everyone is happy!

Compromise. Offer to pick him up at, say 8, and warn him that the corkscrew comes out at 8 so after that he's on his own.

Personally I'd do it as it makes me happy being able to make my OH happy. But then again were I ever not in the mood I could quite easily say to OH "sorry I can't be arsed" and he'd be absolutely ok with that and make other arrangements. Doesn't sound like the biggest issue (which you know already ) so just tell him no. Assuming he's a good guy then he won't make an issue with it and will understand.

PP who asked why he did not walk from the station, it really is too far.

As things turned out, DH phoned to say he wanted to come straight home anyway, and needed to eat before he had a pint (or 3) so we are all at home, ready meal about to go in the oven, my wine is poured and I doubt that DH will land up at the pub, but if he did, then I will leave the bastard.

Ah, all's well that ends well! :)

Never has a truer word(s) been said, Fuckedoffetc. Have a good long weekend, if that's what you're doing.