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To feel taken for granted?

25 replies

NunTheWiser · 05/04/2012 16:49

It's my birthday and DH hasn't done anything, not even a card. Apparently he couldn't think of anything to get me. He's also not reminded or organized the DC so not even a folded piece of paper with a scribble has come my way. He doesn't get why I'm upset as he says I could just go and get something I want. It's not the present thing that bothers me so much as the implication that I don't merit a bit of thought.
To top it all off, we're meant to be going on holiday tomorrow and as usual I'm the one packing and organizing everything while he's meeting a couple of friends after work for a drink. Am tempted to tell him what I want is a week off and he can take the kids on holiday by himself.

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ditavonteesed · 05/04/2012 16:49

Happy Birthday xx

MrsTerryPratchett · 05/04/2012 16:51

That is exactly what you should tell him, if only to see his reaction Grin

Here have some Thanks from me.

Happy Birthday

SquishyCinnamonSwirls · 05/04/2012 16:53

YANBU at all, not one tiny bit.
Do the children know it's your Birthday?! Rope them in and make a cake altogether, and have a little Birthday tea. Phone your dh and ask him to get his butt home to help with the packing as you're busy too.
Happy Birthday x

NunTheWiser · 05/04/2012 16:55

Thanks everyone.

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EostreAngelofchocolateeggs · 05/04/2012 16:57

YANBU

Happy Birthday

CailinDana · 05/04/2012 16:57

Definitely DO NOT pack his clothes or organise anything for him, he can do that himself.

Happy Birthday.

NunTheWiser · 05/04/2012 17:02

Am tempted to take the ultimate revenge and eat the Easter egg I bought him.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 05/04/2012 17:03

HELL YES!

JarethTheGoblinKing · 05/04/2012 17:11

YANBU,I feel much the same way at the moment.

I know DP won't get me an Easter egg so I've just bought one for myself

craftynclothy · 05/04/2012 17:11

YANBU.

My dh has made a half-arsed attempt at packing toiletries. He's basically packed stuff for him and the kids and left all my stuff alone Hmm. He's also spread various bits of his clothing across the kitchen table and done nowt else....so I've packed my stuff and the kids stuff, loaded the car with it and am currently pondering whether to bother warning him that his stuff is not packed or letting him spend 4 days in today's clothing if he doesn't realise Wink

MissFaversham · 05/04/2012 17:15

YANBU. Definitely DON'T do his packing, why should you? Let him come home
half sozzled and do it himself. Then you can laugh all holiday at the crap he's packed contents of his case.

NotMostPeople · 05/04/2012 17:19

Why is he going out for a drink tonight if he knows that you feel hurt about the lack of efFort?

Mmmcoffee · 05/04/2012 17:20

My friend went on holiday and told her DH he had to pack his own things. He didn't. Two weeks in Spain and all he had were the things he was standing up in. Apparently she did give him a bit of sunscreen for his manic dash round the shops the next day... Grin

Happy birthday!

NarkedPuffin · 05/04/2012 17:26

Not even a card? And nothing on behalf of the children?

Never mind eating the egg I'd lace it with laxatives.

NarkedPuffin · 05/04/2012 17:26

Happy Birthday Thanks

cookcleanerchaufferetc · 05/04/2012 17:27

Eat the egg instead of doing his packing ...selfish git.

Gingefringe · 05/04/2012 17:29

He should be taking YOU out for a birthday drink not getting pissed up with his mates.

DO eat his easter egg

DON'T do his packing.

Happy Birthday.

GravyHadALumpyMashBaby · 05/04/2012 17:30

Happy Birthday! Do not pack his things though. And eat the egg.

fedupofnamechanging · 05/04/2012 17:33

So it's your birthday and not only has he made fuck all effort to buy you a card/pressie, he's actually out with his mates.

Why are you still married to this tosserman?

BalloonSlayer · 05/04/2012 17:41

God that's awful! Shock

Am nearly in tears on your behalf.

How dare he not bother with your birthday and then go to the pub and leave you to pack. Who the hell does he think he is?

Gumby · 05/04/2012 17:46

Ring his mates & cancel on his behalf

Ring your mates and arrange to go out tonight

chandellina · 05/04/2012 17:52

Happy birthday. Agree you should eat the egg and put the wrapper in his empty suitcase.

fedupofnamechanging · 05/04/2012 17:55

Can you 'lose' his passport and go on holiday with the kids?

I hope you are not doing any of his packing and that you've eaten his egg.

Remember this, when his birthday comes around and make as much effort for him ans e has made for you!

Kellamity · 05/04/2012 17:56

Aw Happy Birthday Nun Sad I would be gutted too.

fussbucket · 05/04/2012 18:07

ThanksWine[and the still unavailable despite numerous requests chocolate]. Yanbu and he is a prat.

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