Well...am I???

[razzledazzler]

My DM is a rubbish visitor at the best of time, we make it easy and always go to her. My DD broke her ankle yesterday at a Holiday Club. Now I know its not a life threatening situation but would have thought that her DGM would like to have visited her to cheer her up today.No instead my SIL is going to visit my DM with her DS's. Instead, DM said she will send my SIL to come along and take my DD along to my DMs house for a visit. I live up 3 flights of stairs and this would involve both my DB & DSIL coming for my DD, BD doesnt drive, she does. Now wouldnt it be MUCH easier if my DM got up from her backside and came along to see my DD herself???? Am I expecting too much?

Why should she have to visit you today? Sounds like she already has plans.

Sounds like your DM would move heaven and earth and the whole family to not have to see you, to me... well you did ask

She didnt have plans. She was supposed to be watching my DD when I was at work, but I have taken today off to help DD as I thought it would be too much for my DM

YANBU. It's crazy to expect your poor DD who has just broken her ankle to be dragged off to visit her gran, when she should be resting.

Either your DM should come and see you or she'll just have to wait to see you all.

At the end of the day, DD is your child, and if you don't want her being dragged around to visit, then just say no.

Thanks Annie - thats exactly whats going to happen. She's not going anywhere today.

Sounds like SIL was already going with her DSs?

The world can't stop for a broken bone and she said she will still see dd but not disrupt her plans

My mum told me to stop pretending when I told her I had broken my hand and only acted over a week later when she noticed it had turned black lol

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If she didn't have plans UANBU

Maybe she thinks your DD might want a change of scenery and to see/play with her cousins?

Maybe she thinks that it will give you some time and space to yourself. I'd imagine having a child with a broken ankle may mean you're not going to get out and about much

Maybe she picks up on the animosity from you and doesn't feel welcome or comfortable in your home?

My DMum did exactly the same Kayano. I got a lot of mileage out of it afterwards.

YANBU to want your DD to stay put today, but you can't expect everyone to be desperate to see your DC the way you are.

I can understand why you might feel your DM isn't showing your DD she cares enough to want to make it easy on your her and visit.

That's not to say she doesn't care, but a dramatic 'drop everything to rush round' probably wouldn't go amiss

You sound like you feel your SIL and her DC are taking precedence? Is that part of it do you think?