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To think Mn's partners shouldn't join MN?

29 replies

lesley33 · 04/04/2012 20:54

I was talking to a friend who posts here frequently who told me her DH has just joined MN and has started posting on here. AIBU to think this is unfair of him and thatr he should leave MN as her private space where she can get support without him knowing what she has written or moaned about?

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 04/04/2012 20:55

It's for parents though, not women. I understand what you mean but it's fairer to say one half of a couple joins MN and the other finds somewhere else to post.

WorraLiberty · 04/04/2012 20:57

Wouldn't bother me

My DH and I used to post on the same forum a couple of years ago

lolajane2009 · 04/04/2012 20:57

this is my space, i dont go on his warhammer or his mmorpg boards.

Hulababy · 04/04/2012 21:01

If it doesn't bother her, then I think it is fine.

Can't imagine DH ever wanting to come on here and post. Think I'd dissuade him if he ever did though. Luckily it's just not his thing.

ReindeerBollocks · 04/04/2012 21:03

If he did I'd rather not know his username or want him to know mine.

That way I can bitch about him privately Grin.

Honestly, it wouldn't really bother me, it's a site for everyone and anyone.

SparkyMcSparrowLaidMiniEggs · 04/04/2012 21:05

Yabvvu lesley.

I want MrSparky here. It means we can coo over each other in public Grin

complexnumber · 04/04/2012 21:07

Silly suggestion!

Who, why and when?

(Not me, I'm off to bed and am probably the wrong side of the planet)

candr · 04/04/2012 21:08

I often tell DH about threads on here but would not want him to know my username (he does but not my password!) if he were to start posting as it is the only place I can have a moan about him without feeling I am making a friend feel uncomfortable.

Whatmeworry · 04/04/2012 21:08

You mean we may get the other side of the story now?

No, that would never do :o

complexnumber · 04/04/2012 21:10

I meant who would police it etc

But as usual, I forgot to read it through

WorraLiberty · 04/04/2012 21:11

Whatme Grin

I've seen that happen on other forums...where someone's been sounding off about their DP and getting bucket loads of sympathy.

Then the DP comes on...a public domestic ensues and the other side of the story opens quite a few eyes!

It's a bit like a car crash...you just carry on looking through your fingers Blush

NagooBunnytail · 04/04/2012 21:11

If Mr Goo joined he would have to accept the consequences Grin

akaemmafrost · 04/04/2012 21:13

My awful ex posts here sometimes, very provocative and ridiculous threads. I stay away from MN for a while when I see one. He blames MN for our marriage break up, says we are "all dressing gown wearing lesbians who should be spending time with their kids instead of breaking up people's marriages", yes he's a real charmer.

AgentZigzag · 04/04/2012 21:14

It's not a private space though is it?

Anyone can post and/or read, including DHs.

A good warning to keep a check on what you're posting.

AgentZigzag · 04/04/2012 21:15

Grin at 'dressing gown wearing lesbians' Grin

OddBoots · 04/04/2012 21:17

This isn't a private space though, it's a public forum with all that brings, fathers, mothers, grandmothers, mothers-in-law, older/grown children - they can all read and post.

SillyBeardyDaddyman · 04/04/2012 21:21

I'm Spartacus and so's my wife! We both post on here and tell each other if there's something funny to read or if there's something the other can advise someone on.

I don't search her profile or track her posts, she doesn't do that to me. It's called trust. Oh and we try not to do anything to piss each other off so we don't have any reason to bitch about each other!

MaryZ · 04/04/2012 21:26

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Avenged · 04/04/2012 21:27

DH could join MN if he wanted and he knows my nickname, but I wouldn't be in the least bit bothered if he did join. In fact, I'd quite enjoy having him on here.

He did try, but couldn't join as I'm already using my email address and he can't use it as his, even though it's the only email address being used in the house and he doesn't have a separate one (he uses my address for his emails).

lockets · 04/04/2012 21:29

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IamtheZombie · 04/04/2012 21:29

Zombie encouraged DZH to join...

curiositykitten · 04/04/2012 21:29

On most parenting forums, I'd say no, no, no! On Mumsnet, where you can change your name/id so easily, I'd not see it as as much of a big deal - if they are both ok about it.

EasterBummy · 04/04/2012 21:32

DH wouldn't be interested here, he likes his car forum. But even there he doesn't "chat" he asks a question - it gets answered or he reads other threads about something car related yes it's that boring :o

But if he was here...I'd probably be happy with that.

SparkyMcSparrowLaidMiniEggs · 04/04/2012 21:36

Not sick if those baskets of eggs yets bums
Im sick of laying the fecking things Grin

Eggs that is not baskets painful

Mrsjay · 04/04/2012 22:12

my DH pretends to show interest by saying Jay what is the threads i start to tell him and 1 eye goes back to the tv or xbox , fine by me Grin , I think it depends ont he couple though if a parent is looking for a bit of support or chat and the other parent is fine with it , If a partner is checking up then thats a little different and invading their private space , iyswim ,

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