To put my foot down about this?

[BellaOfTheBalls]

A little background is required; bear with me.

We have recently relocated about 4hrs from PIL & DP's home town where we had lived for 5 years. In that time on 2 occasions we came down to my mums (nearer where we live now) for Easter. DP has come home this evening saying he wants to go to see PIL for the weekend. He has used the "well we ALWAYS saw your mum at Easter, it should work both ways" line in his argument. In part, he is right & I feel bad because it hadn't even crossed my mind to go up there. However the sheer logistics of moving us plus 2 small DC's at short notice on bank holiday weekend has made my head spin. Plus PIL do not have the room to put us up & the local Travelodge is £140. Not vast amounts of money but when you add on £90 for the diesel it gets a bit steeper. I should also mention that we get married next month & have not yet paid for my wedding ring.

AIBU to say that this is not feasible?

YANBU. It's only Easter, hardly Christmas. If money can be better spent right now, then it should be. Maybe I am biased because I can't stand my PIL's and would go green at the thought of having to spend over 200 quid to spend the weekend with them

It's nice to see family at Easter but tbh, it's never occurred to me to imbue it with the emotional cloud that so often blights Christmas. So I can't see why you should have to start taking turns over who sees who at Easter.

Bearing in mind your forthcoming wedding, it wouldn't be at all unreasonable to stay home at Easter and save your money. So no, YANBU.

Given the costs involved, could you invite them to visit you for Easter? Do you have room to put them up?

Do not go near any motorway in any part of the country on Easter weekend.

You have been warned.

Why wouldn't you want to see your PILs?

If you have only recently moved, isn't it possible that your DH misses his mum and dad?

As it's a 4 hour drive, it does seem to make sense to visit over the long bank holiday weekend.

Invite them to you.

Can't they come to you?