Not to meet up again with friend whose kids have always had D&V before we meet?

[Zingzillarilla]

Every time I meet up with her she is the same, saying that one or other of her kids as been up the night before being sick or that they're all just getting over a sickness and diahorrea bug. She doesn't tell me in advance of the meeting either, she just tells me when she's arrived to meet me or arrived at our house, which means I can't really just go home or ask her to leave whereas if she phoned or texted and let me know I could make a decision as to whether to meet up with her or not.

We met up yesterday and as per usual she said that one of her DCs had been sick in the night, yet she was letting her DD run around at soft play and even suggested at one point that our DDs shared a drink. Ewwwwwww.

WIBU to make excuses and not make any further plans with her?

Can't you just phone her before meeting to check they've not been ill? Just say your kids are struggling with their school attendance as it is, or something? It's not unreasonable imho.

I feel that she is likely to say they're fine. She has been known to lie to school before and send them in the next day after sickness

Why are her kids sick so often? Seems a bit weird.

Unless you really enjoy her company and would miss spending time with her then yes, it seems to be way more stress than it's worth.

Why are her children always ill? if your children mix closely at school then they are being exposed to it anyway surely?

Do your kids then get ill?
Maybe she's just one of those drama types and one of them looked a bit peaky around 7pm - retold as 'up all night'.

It's weird they're ill so often, you should suggest getting them checked out by a doctor maybe?

Just tell her that if her kids have been ill, she needs to let you know because you dont want yours being affected.

Have your kids ever caught an illness from them? Is it possible she's lying about their health, and they're not really sick?

Cross post with suepurbly, that's what I was thinking.