AIBU to put a 3-4 year old in pants rather than boxers?

[lalaland3008]

Got told the other day that pants are old fashioned and he'll be laughed at in school.

You are paranoid that your four year old will be laughed at about his underwear so your response is to pander to this imaginary event rather than just ignore it? Really?

Paranoid was probably bad wording. It's more he needed new undies so thought I'd try something else.

They are called "ball stranglers" at DS school. Boxers all the way!

DS1 is 5 and wears pants as do the majority of his friends.

Every wednesday after school the parents of the boys get a run down of who had spiderman, star wars etc pants on.

ds is five. he likes pants.

'got told' - by your DS himself or by someone else?

yoube - Asda for great tight boxers

DS (12) has worn trunks since before he started school.
Boxers are too baggy. Trunks fit nice and snug (according to him)

'got told' - by your DS himself or by someone else?

By my parents during a conversation about what new clothes ds needed and what they could get him for his birthday.

I remember a few years back reading a thread on MN about a boy being teased for wearing pants rather than trunks to school. I asked both boys at the time and they said there was a mix of both styles and no teasing in either class.

Fast forward to this year, when ds2 went into y3, ie joined the juniors and he asked me for trunks, as all but one other boy was wearing them in his class. Still no teasing, but all the same, he didn't want to be different.

I have never bought character or logo underwear for school. I tend to stick to black, navy and grey, mainly because what's popular changes far faster than the size of my ds's rear ends and I wouldn't be very pleased if they refused to wear certain pairs just because they had the wrong picture on.

Ds1 is 10 next week and still very happy wearing underpants, rather than trunks or boxers, he says its still a mix in his class and not something there has ever been any teasing about.

I have 3 DSs - DS1 & 2 wear boxers, DS3 wears pants. They are 10, 6 and 5.

The older two find boxers more comfortable. DS3 has boxers but prefers pants. Don't think he has ever been laughed at.

I don't see why your parents would be experts on what kids at school wear as underwear, unless they are teachers! Wouldn't let that alone worry you.

I do notice how much talk there is about this or that being a cause of bullying in Reception-age children. Perhaps I've been lucky, with my children, and the school where I work, but IMO that kind of teasing (not specifically about pants - I've never heard of that) doesn't tend to start until at least Y2, if at all, and if it happens it should be dealt with.

At 4 some DC are still wetting themselves and no-one is batting an eye, let alone teasing. Try not to worry.

And DS1 only started wearing boxers when he was 10

Next boy boxers are good. Great array of bright colours. DS2 likes the ones with chimps on the arse area

My 6yo wears pants. He hasn't been laughed at for it.

A 3 year old isn't in school so no need to worry there. My boys all started off in pants and went into trunks aged 5 and upwords. If people are laughing at a child because of what he wears to cover his bits then they need to ftfo.

DS is in Year 3 and a couple of months ago he told us that he wanted boxers because the other boys laughed at him because he was wearing pants. I wouldn't have thought they'd be doing this in reception class though!

My DS wears plain coloured M&S pants. Never had any issue from him about it. Only time I've heard of problems is one friend who was teased for his "babyish" pants by other boys in reception. It was the cartoon character on them (not sure which one) that was the issue, not the type of pants.

DS is almost 7 and is tall and skinny. Close fitting pants work on him - boxers would look ridiculous!