to ask DH to stay sober for a couple of weeks?

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I am 38 weeks pregnant tomorrow, nearly there thank god! The thing is, my DH likes to have 3 or 4 a couple of beers at home of an evening on his days off. Not an issue, not silly amounts or anything. But, it's kind of just occurred to me that it could happen any day now really, and we might need to go to the hospital with little notice.

I had thought we'd have plenty of time for him to sober up enough to drive, like a good few hours, but that's not always the case, is it? I've been looking at signs of early labour, and stuff like needing to go in right away if you have your waters break and they're a funny colour or something.

So, I mentioned it just now, and to be fair to him he has agreed to stay sober for the next couple of weeks, until the big day I guess, but I get the feeling he thinks I'm being a bit silly. Is it reasonable to expect this, or AIBU?

Again, I must stress that he isn't fighting me on this, I just want to know if it's a reasonable request, seeing as I'm 2 weeks off my due date still. Thanks!

it's too late to suggest a home birth isn't it ?

YANBU.
he's a poor man if he can't stay sober for 2 weeks in case of needing to take you to hospital.

Of course YANBU and don't feel guilty for asking this of him either.

Of course it's a reasonable request and I'm glad to see he's in agreement with you on it.

If he was over the driving limit, I doubt a few hours would be enough to bring him under it anyway.

YANBU! I was 2 months early with DS1, so DH gave up his tipple, guess.... yeap 2 months before DS2 EDD! Hes probably bewildered about the whole, blimey Im going to be a father thing, rather than think youre silly! Good luck! x

How far are you from the hospital? If you're a short taxi ride away, maybe you could give him the odd break.

No of course not, sure he agrees, best of luck with birth.

This seems to be pretty common practise on MN.

I have never felt the need to demand it. If you should happen to go into labour very suddenly there are other ways to get to hospital.

A couple of beers a couple of times a week seems a reasonable treat that there's no real reason to forgo.

I don't think you're being unreasonable, I just don't really see the point of the restriction.

It seems to be as much about making a big deal of the fact that labour is likely in the next 4 weeks as about any genuine need.

Ok thanks all, was just doubting myself for a minute! He's having a mate round for a piss up tonight, so that can be the last time he'll be having a few drinks without (eeek) a new baby to consider. How scary...

DH agreed to have no more than 1 drink on the 3 weeks before I was due. If it wasn't that DS turned up early, that would involve DH being sober for Christmas and New Year (went into labour christmas eve, DS arrived Christmas day)

athing yes there are other ways to get there, but I don't really want to be getting a taxi when I'm having contractions, thanks! It really wouldn't be convenient, what with having a couple of bags to be left in the car for after etc. And why should I have to go to hospital with a pissed husband? I don't know about anyone else's, but mine seems to think everything is highly amusing after a few drinks, and wouldn't be the best support for me.

YANBU

It's very sensible. Also as well as the driving, it's important that he has a clear head at the birth. It would be horrible if he'd had a few and felt sleepy or hungover when you need him!