to think that not even acknowledging receipt of a present is rude?

[AKMD]

DH's sister, BIL and 3 DNs live abroad. I always make sure I send them presents for birthdays and Christmas and put quite a bit of thought into getting something that I hope they'll like. I never get an acknowledgement that the presents have arrived or been opened so leave it for a few weeks and then ask, to which the answer is always, "Oh yes, thankyou, they did." I'm starting to feel a bit hacked off really. IMO it's good manners to acknowledge the receipt of a present and it would be lovely to have a photo of them opening/playing with it, or at least something to say that the recipient actually liked the present. AIBU to think the ILs are being rude?

Yes. I am a great believer in thank you letters, because it is good manners.

BUT you may find that others will disagree for various bizarre reasons including there would be too many to write etc.

YANBU.

I'm not massively into thankyou letters but even just a FB post would be appreciated.

Yes, or an email. Or at least any acknowledgement for the gift and you queueing in the PO to send them.

Yes, it is rude, but you shouldn't give presents for the thanks. (Not saying that you are, obviously).

Your post just reminded me to text my aunt to thank her for the money she sent in an Easter card yesterday. I hadn't intended to be rude, I really appreciated the gift and the card made me smile, but because I hadn't sent immediate thanks it just kind of slipped my mind until I was reminded.

I am still waiting for 2 Christmas thank yous and a January birthday one. My DC sent the family one for their Christmas gifts.

YANBU. A thank you letter is lovely, but an e mail, text or FB is fine too.

Funnily enough I've been thinking of starting a similar thread. In the last six months, DP and I have been to three 'significant birthday' parties - each one we took a present to. We've only had one thank you . Saying thank you to a gift wrapped 'something', which is put to one side and not opened until after the party, doesn't really constitute a thank you for the .

And, no, we don't give gifts in order to get a thank you. We give them because we are fond of the recipient.

YANBU
I've slipped in recent years and now often send a text, but I do mean to return to the old postcard/note way of thanking someone.

We have an ongoing issue of who sends the thanks for DS's gifts (10.5months). I always send a thank you in some form to any joint friends and my side of the family. my DH doesn't. I've bought him thank you cards to send to his family and friends but they just sit unwrapped. he annoys himself by not sending them and we, as a couple, look ungrateful. should I just send the bloody things myself?!

YANBU - we always make a telephone call, preferably on the day the present is opened, to say thank you. Even if the wrapped present was handed over a few days before and thanks given then, we still get in touch when it has been opened.

I think it is especially important when a present has been posted because at the very least it lets the recipient know that it arrived safely.

It hacks me off too. I've stopped giving gifts to most of the people that don't acknowledge them.

I dislike it - at very least I like to know that the gift has arrived if sent via post as thing can do go missing from time to time.

To not even acknowledge they have arrived is rude beyond belief. I would actually stop sending (see if you get a phone call to ask where they are!) Just give presents when you see them.

YANBU. I never get acknowledgement or thanks for presents sent for my nephew or niece, and while I can remember chafing at having to write thank-you cards as a child I can now completely understand why my parents made me do it. Even a phone call or text would be nice, but generally I get flip all