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AIBU?

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Aibu to tell my mother if she is so bothered about the bloody pushchair that she can carry dd?

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rogersmellyonthetelly · 03/04/2012 23:12

Going on holiday tomorrow, 2 weeks in Orlando

Dd is 5.5, has joint hypermobility, tires easily and whinges for england. When we last went on hols in oct half term she fell asleep on my knee every single night at dinner, and we had to carry her back to the room (listened to my mother and left pushchair at home) I was hoping 6 months would have made a difference but we went out for a meal last weekend and she fell asleep almost in her dinner.
Given that we are not hiring a car and will be walking/taking bus to restaurants, I want to take the pushchair so I have a place to park dd when she falls asleep in the evening so that I can actually enjoy myself and not have to retire to the hotel room at 8, and even better I won't have to lug her around as she weighs a bloody tonne.
I'm also looking forward to using the basket to store all the shite like water bottles, packed lunches, cameras etc which always seem to end up in my bag in the parks.
My mother (who is coming with us) says she won't be seen dead with me pushing a 5yo round in a pushchair, dh is also making similar noises.
Aibu to tell them to feck off and that I don't give a rats ass what they think since I'm the one pushing it and I'm always the one who ends up with a dead weight draped on my lap at 8pm?

OP posts:

DefiniteMaybe · 03/04/2012 23:14

YANBU If your dd needs the pram then take it. None of your Mums business.

fedupofnamechanging · 03/04/2012 23:15

Tell your mum to stay home then and you'll go to Orlando without her.

Take the buggy - it sounds like a very sensible idea.

Hope you have a lovely time

Imnotaslimjim · 03/04/2012 23:16

Aibu to tell them to feck off and that I don't give a rats ass what they think since I'm the one pushing it and I'm always the one who ends up with a dead weight draped on my lap at 8pm?

YADNBU!!!

Take the buggy, sod what they think and enjoy your holiday. If they whine and gripe so much that you leave it in the hotel, when DD falls asleep dump her on your mums knee, she'll soon change her mind

pollyblue · 03/04/2012 23:16

If your DD has mobility problems and you need a pushchair, yes tell them to bugger off.
My DD is 5 and yes, they do weigh a tonne by that age - in your shoes I'd use a pushchair too.

skybluepearl · 03/04/2012 23:16

Take the buggy - sounds like you need it. Ignore any comments.

EvilTwins · 03/04/2012 23:18

We went to Orlando last year and I was immediately sniffy and judgemental about the vast numbers of people pushing their kids (older than mine) around in buggies Right up til the point (day 2 I think) that I realised the combination of heat and huge parks was enough to exhaust any child. We ended up hiring one. Take your own and ignore your mother.

cornflowers · 03/04/2012 23:18

Take the pushchair. The fact that your mother appears to be more concerned about the opinions that random passers-by might theoretically have about the sight of a five year old in a pushchair than the comfort and convenience of her daughter and grand-daughter seems very wrong somehow.

MissMogwi · 03/04/2012 23:19

I went to Orlando a couple of years ago and in the parks loads of older children were in pushchairs or cart type things you can hire there.

My own DD's were shattered by the end of the day due to the rides, excitement and the heat, and they doesn't have any mobility issues.

The pushchair is definitely a good idea! Balls to your mum and OH, get it packed. Have a great time!

MissMogwi · 03/04/2012 23:19

should read don't have

ChocolateDippedSproutHater · 03/04/2012 23:20

My son also has hypermobility syndrome....he still uses a buggy and a (wheelchair) at 8 and wouldn't be able to cope without it. IME, the more the holiday goes on, the more tired she will get, so using a buggy for rest/naps will buy you extra time!

lovebeinganana · 03/04/2012 23:21

You must take the buggy it's your holiday too. If you are planning to do theme parks we find a buggy an essential -theme parks are very big lots of walking and children tire easily nothing worse than a whining child will spoil it for everyone. Buggy great for loading up saves carrying all the syuff you need. Tell mum it's buggy or she carries everything including dd.

We going to Orlando later in year been many times and would not dream of going without a buggy.

SingingSands · 03/04/2012 23:22

Take the buggy! Yes, yes, yes! TONS of kids are in pushchairs in Disneyland for this very reason - it's a lot of walking, they get incredibly tired, it saves their energy and yours. Honestly, she will not look unusual in any way at all! You will be so glad you have it, like you say it's not just DD you need to carry but everything else as well - and you can hang your purchases off the handles!

You can hire those motorised scooters for older/lazy/fat people who don't/can't walk too far either - you might want to mention this to your mum, in case she needs one

Seriously - ignore the moans from your mum and DP - once you get there they'll be thanking you!

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rogersmellyonthetelly · 03/04/2012 23:24

Thanks all, I was kind of worried I was going to get a pasting for a 5yo in a buggy, glad its not just me that can't face Orlando without one! Wish it was a big enough for me to sit in, I'd bloody love it if someone would push me round the parks all day

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StateofConfusion · 03/04/2012 23:30

YADNBU!

take the buggy and have a wonderful time!

lovebeinganana · 03/04/2012 23:36

Have a wonderful time.

roughtyping · 03/04/2012 23:41

YANBU - we went when DS was 4.5 and we used a buggy. Have a great trip :)

5Foot5 · 03/04/2012 23:43

YANBU to take a buggy but I wonder whether YAB a bit U to go out so late for dinner with a 5yo who clearly has trouble staying out and sitting up at table at that time.

Trying to remember, but I think when DD was 5 she would have been dead on her feet by 8 and when we went away we always tried to eat early evening, 6ish

pictish · 03/04/2012 23:45

Yanbu! Not at all!
Ignore them and take the buggy.

birthdaygurl · 03/04/2012 23:47

Take the buggy. YANBU. Why you going with DM and DH the sound, er weird.

blackeyedsusan · 03/04/2012 23:49

there are times I would put my hypermobile dd in the buggy... except it is a light weight buggy held together by duct tape and it may collapse and then I would have to carry ds around...

take the buggy. remind you dh and dm that dd may suffer from joint pain and will need a sit down. the ot says dd has to ork twice as hard as other childrren at anything physical. make your dh and mil walk twice as far as dd and see how they feel.

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