OMFG - i swear!!!
She just infuriates me. Its not passive aggression, its passive feel sorry for myself, make you feel guitysion!
She wants to go to the garden centre, she doesn't drive - but she will ask to go during the week when DP working, i dont drive. So i say we can go at the weekend. OK. Saturday phoned her, do you want to go to the garden centre? No no, i cant be bothered, lets go for something to eat - we do this, she pays - shes very generous (with cash). Sunday sort of goes by, we have to go shopping, then we tidy garden, i phone her later to see if she wants to come for dinner, no, shes got upset tummy. No mention of g center. Now, this isnt the first weekend that we have offered her to the garden centre and she hasn't wanted to go.
She has just phoned - "im going to the garden center" not "im going to the garden center do you want to come". I said, wait til later in the week, DP can take you - "no no, its too late anyway, my garden is full of moss" I wasnt aware that this was a crisis?? I said well why don't you pop around the corner to DIY shop, they have their own garden centre im sure they will have it. Or DP can fetch it for you on way home from work? "no, i need a LOT of stuff" oh, so how will you get it home? "Mr X brother will take me, if i ask him, and i'll pay him so........."
guilt trip, much?
She does this ALL the time. Will never Ask for stuff directly, will drop sob story and expect me to offer, i always do, but then it will be "oh i cant be bothered now" or theres another reason why she can't do it.
It makes me see red - i end up feeling guilty for not doing enough for her or not involving her enough. She will have DD, but not for long periods and i have to ask which sort of irritates me because DD loves spending time with her. I know she cant cope with her for long but i actually think it would be quite nice for her to have her, otherwise she is on her own. Thats up to her though, she likes her own company and that of her yeti dog.
Just the guilt tripping pisses me off so much