To think this is cheeky at best, rude at worst

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A particular school mum regularly makes social faux pas, but this time I think she's surpassed herself.

She has a dd (7) for purposes of retelling we'll call child Ann.

Another mum and I were chatting at pick up time at a birthday party today, when Ann's mum walked over, and said to the other mum: 'Ann really wants to have a sleepover with x' (this mum's dd) and the mum said 'Oh' and the other mum said 'What date suits you for her to come over and stay then?' The other mum made noncomittal polite noises.

The mum then turned to me and said 'Ann really wants to play with x' (my dd) I said 'that'd be nice, but we are busy during Easter hols, so when we go back we'll arrange something.' and she said 'there must be one day during the hols you can have her over to yours to play for the day, because I've got to work', and I said 'no sorry it's not possible' and she then walked off in a strop.

AIBU if your child wants to play with another child or to have a sleepover, the norm is to invite the child to your house, not palm your child on to the other person?

I think the lady in question is searching for free childcare, and definitely not going the right way about it!

Maybe just suggest meeting at the park? People say to me "We'll have to meet up soon." I'm not sure if they're hinting that they want to come over to me, or if I would be rude to assume they mean me go to them.

YANBU

But on the other hand, you don't know that the kids didn't 'arrange' it between them and her child might have said "Get your Mum to speak to mine"

It's still cringeworthy though. If my kids say things like that to me I tell them to ask the other Mum to call me, if she wants my kids to come round.

Ha, what a nutter! Avoid her like the plague.

Ah, she sounds a bit odd ( :o )
Someone so socially inept deserves sympathy :o

Sounds like she's looking for free childcare to me as well.

YANBU

Something similar happened to me, I received an email from DD's friends Mum listing her holidays from work and asking if her daughter could come to my house on one of the given days.I had to read it several times to make sure I had read it right.Her exact statement was "she will be ok because I will be here for her ".For the life of me I could not believe she could be so hardfaced and cheeky to push her daughter in my direction without an invite.

Thankfully DD does not play with this girl anymore so I don't have any contact with the barmy Mother.

Maybe she is looking for free childcare, but maybe she has no option. If you're free and your kids would like their friends over be a bit compassionate

Shocked at her bluntness and rudeness, glad you said no!

Maybe she is looking for free childcare, but maybe she has no option.

How is that op's problem? There are ways of doing these things and they're usually built up over years of people getting to know each other and their children being friends. You don't just walk up to someone and try and fob your child off on them. Poor kid apart from anything else...

No YANBU, it was a shameless attempt to palm her child off on you and others. Silly woman! That attitude would be very offputting to most people, regardless of whether they wanted the child to come over or not.