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...to be so KNACKERED?!

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FeakAndWeeble · 01/04/2012 20:51

Hello. This is more of an Am I Normal than Am I Unreasonable because I really cannot reason myself into having any more energy. I've tried.

It's also really bloody long because I have typists diahorreah and can't use one word when fifty will do. Sorry.

DS is 1; I'm at home with him 4 days a week and I work in a bakery making bread and cakes and lugging stuff about on the other days.

Routine for At Home Days goes something like this:
DS wakes up around 6ish
Plays and crawls about for a couple of hours while I collapse on the sofa watching The Hoobs
We both fall asleep in front of Fraiser
We both sleep for usually around an hour sometimes 2
Then we'll do stuff. Like cleaning/washing/playing/going out to see friends/baby group bla bla and he goes to bed at around 7ish, though this is unpredictable and often traumatic
(Obviously I do feed and water him in between times too)
Make/eat dinner and fall asleep on the sofa by 21:00; get woken up by DH at 23:00; collapse into bed and carry on sleeping.

Work Days like this:
Wake up DS at 6 (because, obviously, these are always the days he fancies a lie-in)
Get to work at 6:45
Bake stuff; heave crates of baked stuff around; hopefully sell some baked stuff
Get home by 14:30. DS is at nursery down t' road until 17.00.
Sleep from 14:35 until 16:50.
Then as above.

Sundays, when DH and I are home together, I usually end up going up for a nap in the afternoon because I literally cannot keep my eyes open. Today we went for lunch at my grandparents and I slunk away from the table after pudding and set myself up in their amazing old person armchairs that have a remote control where you can tip yourself into any position; I reclined it to its max and fell asleep for the remainder of our visit Blush. It feels like when I was a teenager and I'd creep off for a crafty fag on family holidays. I am constantly looking for ways to have a secret sleep.

I went to the doctor's last year about this; he diagosed PND (at the time there were other symptoms, like me crying a lot and phoning DH at work telling him he had to come home and dress DH because I literally couldn't do it and I was going back to bed, and some other mad stuff). He put me on anti-depressants which were 'uppers' rather than tranquilisers. I'm still on them but on the weaning process at the moment as the crazy-mist seems to have gone away... But I'm still SO TIRED. Had a blood test last month to check if there's any physical cause and there's not.

So. What I would like to know is, is this NORMAL? Does anyone else feel tired All The Bloody Time? I never used to be like this (pre DS). I worked very long hours in a very stressful job and still went out every weekend and survived on 4 hours sleep a night. I am actually sleeping now more than I ever have and I'm still bloody shattered.

...Anyone?!

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MyLittleMiracle · 01/04/2012 20:58

I went through a stage like that, just slept and slept and slept. I felt really drained and weakened. I am okay now. I also have PND. So know the feeling. I was really bad as well, have to admit. Maybe take some vitamin b tablets they can really help, i have injections cos i suffer from vitb12 dificiency.

Cheaplamp · 01/04/2012 21:15

I was going to say b12 too. I'm like a new woman after mine. Although your day sounds full on, I don't think it's exceptionally tiring and it's worth a trip to the docs about it to see if you're deficient in something. Good luck.

abitlikemollflanders · 01/04/2012 21:17

Are you sure it's not medical. I had an iron deficiency after ds1 and iron supplements plus spatone worked wonders for energy levels.

Fairyloo · 01/04/2012 21:59

No answers just to say I feel the same. My eyes always go. I could sleep 15 hours and still want more! I eat well, exercise, don't drink and feel so tired!

I'm going to try b12 and I'll report back!

verytellytubby · 01/04/2012 22:07

I have no idea if it's normal but I've never slept like you (and I had 3 under 3 including twins and a job).

Go to the dr's and get checked out. What's your diet like?

FeakAndWeeble · 01/04/2012 22:14

Have been to the drs, had blood test and all came back normal (they checked for iron levels, liver/kidney issues, diabetes etc).

I did buy some B12, took them for a few days and then forgot about them, but have just dug them out and will give them another go.

Diet is vegetarian and on the whole pretty healthy apart from the 7 Lindt I've just eaten and I don't drink.

When I went back to docs recently (about something else) he just sort of shrugged when I mentioned this was still going on and said 'Well, you've had a baby'.

Yeah, a year ago... Hmm

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Cheaplamp · 01/04/2012 22:41

You may have to ask for a b12 test - I did and it came back waaay low. My dad and aunts both lack "intrinsic factor" which makes b12 absorption v tricky, and so do I apparently. B12 tablets won't work, you have to have the jabs. They're belting. Slebs have 'em as a pick me up. Perhaps google b12 deficiency and see what you think?

Ineedacleaneriamalazyslattern · 01/04/2012 22:45

I wasn't like this after dd and ds1 but was after ds2. People said you have 3 children one of them a baby but it was more than that although I'm not sure what it was.
I was shattered all the time and I mean shattered. I was always longing for my next nap and I had never been like that ever before.
Like I said I have no idea what it was and it just disappeared in the last few months. Ds2 will be 2 in June.
I feel as if a massive weight has been lifted I am far more active and all the dc have been ill one after the other for the past month so have had little sleep and am nowhere near as tired as I was for that year and a half.

FeakAndWeeble · 01/04/2012 23:04

Cheaplamp you're a star, thank you. Will go back and ask for the test.

Ineedacleaner and everyone else who've replied, have some Thanks. It's obviously not 'normal' but I feel better knowing other people have experienced it in the past or are going through same!

Have just taken a B12 tablet and it tasted like marmite (and I'm on the side of the haters). But will keep it up.

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Fairyloo · 02/04/2012 22:10

I went to boots today and got some meta tone tonic, and some pharmaton vitality tablets! I'm praying they work!!!

marriedinwhite · 02/04/2012 22:20

Have you had your thyroid levels checked.

Sarcalogos · 02/04/2012 22:28

Are you on the pill now? Microgynon does this to me - took literally months of drs shrugging at me before I figured it out... Once I suggested it to to the dr she immediately agreed with me.... Then I stopped taking it, after a few weeks massive improvement!

TotemPole · 02/04/2012 22:45

Another thing you could try is cutting out caffeine. Switch tea/coffee for herbal tea. I don't know if there's one that helps with b12 absorption.

FeakAndWeeble · 05/04/2012 20:19

Went back to doctors today, seems there was some kind of miscommunication with my blood test results - as in, the Nurse I spoke to on the phone looked at the wrong ones.

Hmm

I have very low heamaglobin (sp?!) levels so am anaemic!

Not on the Pill though I am a coffee addict... But will carry on with the iron tablets and see how it goes. I told him that I'd polled on MN as to whether or not it was normal to be so tired and he said - 'You have to be careful on there - they're a right nest of crocodiles' Grin

Let us know how you get Fairyloo

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FeakAndWeeble · 05/04/2012 20:20

*get on (duh)

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Fairyloo · 17/04/2012 16:21

I have started taken pharmatom which I do believe is helping

I am not as tired and can get up easier in the morning (prob psychological but something feels different)

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