Wedding updates on facebook - AIBU?

[Bennifer]

I'm friends with a friends partner on facebook. They're getting married in 5 months and they've been engaged for the past year. A big proportion of her updates for the past year have been

"OMG, got engaged"
"only 14 months till I'm married"
"Last birthday as an unmarried woman"
"Last new year as an unmarried woman"
"OMG, the wedding invites have arrived"
"Only 200 days till I'm married", and on and on.

I've had to block her because I find this obsession over her wedding so boring and irritating. I can see that she's excited, but am I unreasonable to find this annoying?

YANBU - she cares about her wedding. Everyone else is mildly interested at best.

Other people's weddings rival other people's children and other people's domestic minutiae for tedium.

Oh, wedding and baby updates :( one friend updates weekly birthdays of DD.
"X is 3 weeks today, 4 weeks today, 5 weeks today..."

I don't read any updates on FB from some of my friends as they just seem to be updating every minute of the day with such minor stuff. It's mind-boggling narcissicism and it's made me look at them in a new light.

I am really lucky in that a good, lovely friend of mine has got herself a new man and as such is now missing from Facebook for long periods of time. Until this happened, everyday was full of cryptic comments ' you know who your friends are', 'I feel so alone after all that has happened today', be careful who you tell things to, I have found out the hard way'. Now this sent me rushing over to see how she was (she was ok, nothing in particular had happened, she was 'having a larf'!!,) or all these other friends (who I don't know) answered her with identical messages ' wotz up hun?' it started to send me very stabby in the end, but phew, that's all over now, but I did nearly have to block her. Your friend is a bridezilla and as such is allowed to go on and on, at least she is being factual, as opposed to cryptic. You on the other hand are NBU to be sick of it, but luckily it won't be forever.

I think to be honest it depends at being single. I am single and on the same day as i got my divorce petition come through an old school friend announced she had got engaged, after moving into their new house he had popped the question, and i was so so happy for her, but a little sad that i couldnt have that happiness.

I am okay though now, just a wobble, but i felt good about getting my marriage over! What is more annoying is oh isnt the weather nice, on absoultely everyones, as if i hadnt noticed outside my front door!

She sounds extremely tedious. YANBU!

I do think this question depends on ones thinking about the sharing of private information. If you think sharing lots of information on facebook is a bit strange, you'll probably, like me, think it's a bit boring and self-absorbed. If on the other hand, you're a big sharer and have no problem with it, it probably seems quite natural.

However, I would say to the sharers, such as Kayzr, who "post every single day" on "all sorts of stuff", there are probably a few groaning at the constant updates, and it might be worth considering this viewpoint

She doesn't sound as annoying as one of my facebook "friends"

"OMG I love David so much!! he is my life!!"
"Sat in bed with David, love our sunday mornings together mwah!"
"I just know me and David will be together until our dying day!"
"Just you just hate it when people lie to you?"
"Men, why do I bother"
changes relationship status to single
"guess I'll be alone for ever :-( "
"so bored, any hot guys out there? lol"
"Had a lovely meal with Andy, I'm so spoilt :-) "
changes relationship status to "In a relationship"
"Sat in bed with Andy, love it!"
"OMG I'm getting married!!! love you Andy!"
"Can't wait for 2012 when I become a married woman!"

ffs shut the fuck up stupid little girl.

YANBU to find it annoying, I had the same a couple of months ago with a facebook friend who was one of my NCT friends but we are not close, only see each other at general meetups. Hearing about her wedding every day was becoming extremely tedious, I have zero interest in other people's weddings that I am not involved in, thankfully she had quite a short engagement so it was over quickly.

YANBU it's boring and tedious.

I have one such 'friend' on FB and it was constant about the wedding, then the pregnancy, then the baby...

Now she's got a problem with her fucking gall bladder, well you can imagine!

chickenskin :o

OP, at least we have the blocking from the feed option, thank god. The pnes who play games are the worst though, if they don't block their game updates.
ChickenSkin can you read my dn's status's?

YA being a bit U but I see where you are coming from.

I don't like to piss on anyone's parade but sometimes the constant updates for events that are miles away can get on your wick. I too know someone who, if you didn't know differently, would think their wedding was a couple of weeks away. Nearly every status update is an "OMG why won't anyone help me find a pink bolero NOW???" type crisis. The wedding isn't till September. But so far she's bought and fallen out of love with, three wedding dresses, selected and deselected the design of the invitations, the hair clips, the boxes for the favours and the theme colours. It's exhausting just watching the preparations for the wedding.

But on the other hand, I suspect there's not much else going on in her life. Which is why I also worry what on earth she'll do after the wedding. A wedding that seems to be much more about "stuff" than it is being married.

I think you sound pretty mean, she's excited, leave her to it. You don't have to read her updates.
I had on FB when I got engaged, I was excited, I wanted to share with my fried DS as I live away from a lot of them, and they were happy for me. Maybe I'm boring I dunno. If I had a friend so excited for their wedding I'd be happy for them!

I think some people become rather self-absorbed about big events in their own life and assume (wrongly) that everyone wants to know every update. However, that's not quite as bad as "sitting here with a cup of tea" - now that baffles me, why would anyone think that is interesting to anyone??

I would find it irritating too, so YANBU, but it's in your hands really, if you don't like it, hide it. I have a couple of friends in RL who are lovely, but if my only contact was via FB I would find them very tedious indeed, they post a lot of proud mum stuff about their DCs, it's not my way but they mean no harm, I'm suree neither does your friend.

YANBU - how boring and self obsessed.

I had to hide 'X & X's wedding page'. I kid you not, they had created a FB user name as their wedding. Every day it would be '183 new photos added' (to the existing 2000). Yawntastic.

"Yawntastic"

I had a friend like this, and I did worry for her that when she finally got married she would have nothing to post about ALL THE TIME on Facebook. Thankfully shortly after the wedding she got pregnant so we all got a commentary on when the baby grew eyelashes and that kind of thing instead.

YABU. i posted about my wedding on facebook because i was excited about getting married! people are allowed to be happy. just looking at facebook a minute ago all the posts i saw were pointless and far less important than someone getting married, i thought one of the points in facebook was to share random bits and bobs anyway. i find the whinging ones more boring.

also i knew not everyone would be interested in my wedding, like i'm not interested in all the posts i see on facebook. i put them up for friends and family i knew who were interested. do you always post messages with the entertainment of everyone in mind?

Yes, but Bea did you relate every single post back to the fact you were getting married? That's what's annoying. What you think is important is entirely subjective- I would personally rather hear about someone having an amusing run-in with a customer, or amazing holiday snaps than I would, "OMG, just picked invitations!!!! Now going to to source doves to deliver them LOLZ".