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I'm not sure what I did wrong here

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WomanInTheMoon · 01/04/2012 11:57

Yesterday a group of about 15 travelled to another city (business related/network-y type thing but very casual) by a bus organised by the people at the place we were going to.

After a long day we split into three groups, one group who went to the pub, two people who went off because one wasn't feeling well (she could have travelled home earlier by bus or train as they are very frequent but she decided to stay) and the group I was in (the majority + included the organisers)who went for a meal.

As far as we were all concerned the bus was picking up at 10pm. I was the only one who had contacts for everyone.

At 9.45 I started getting texts from the others asking me where the bus was. The organisers then told me we were wrong and it was picking us all up at 10.30pm (which was great for because our food still hadn't arrived at the table)but couldn't get in touch with the driver to let him know there were some waiting early. I communicated this with the ones waiting.

Anyway - sorry this is dull! - I started receiving lots of pissed off texts and voicemails from the ones- I replied once to each saying what I had heard but they still kept coming in, all a bit 'WTF? I am freezing, wheres the bus' etc etc. I wasn't in any way in charge and couldn't have done anything to make everyone hurry up. No one else was getting texts, only me as they only had my number.

Anyway the bus picked everyone up at 10.30 but when I got on got blanked from all the ones who had been waiting earlier, lovely big dirty looks like it was my fault. It all felt quite immature!

Aibu to think don't shoot the messenger? I had another look at the texts today and it has really annoyed me that they seemed to be blaming me personally for the whole bus malarky. Yet I know they wouldnt have said anything like that to the organisers!

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plantsitter · 01/04/2012 12:01

I couldn't resist texting those people back and saying 'if you were annoyed yesterday I suggest you take it up with the people who organised the coach. Looking forward to an apology for your rude message sent to the wrong person. WomanInTheMoon.'

myalias · 01/04/2012 12:02

The other group who were hanging around could ahve caught another bus/train back. Only going by what you said about the one who wasn't feeling well could have travelled home earlier by bus or train as they are very frequent.

aleene · 01/04/2012 12:02

That is unfair. Get in touch with the organisers and get them to issue an email apologising for the confusion and make it clear it was not your fault?

Then try to put it out your mind. It will dwell in your mind longer than everyone's else - especially if they have been drinking.

delilahlilah · 01/04/2012 12:03

Maybe you should blanket text them and say that you will forward their complaints to the organisers for them if they would like, as they seem to have complained to you in error, when you had nothing to do with the organisation...

WomanInTheMoon · 01/04/2012 12:07

Thanks for your replies.

I will text them back. I'm annoyed about it and know I will see them tomorrow at work and would like to have communicated with them before then.

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AutumnSummers · 01/04/2012 12:28

They behaved like a group of children and owe you an apology!

WomanInTheMoon · 03/04/2012 00:17

Update..
I texted the main texter and various went back and forth between myself and her.
Basically she said herself and the others thought I was really inconsiderate for not making everyone hurry up, and it was not something 'any real friend would do'
Jeez
It has been left with my saying, in non emotional language, how I had as much responsibility as she(and everyone else getting the bus) did. I had the day off today so wasn't in, but am in tomorrow, can't wait Hmm

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toofattorun · 03/04/2012 01:13

Oh sod them. They sound like bloody toddlers! Walk in there tomorrow with your head held high and if anyone mentions it I would tell them that you are upset with how rude people were being and news flash you don't work for coach company and you're not the organisers so no more texts are to be sent to you from now on.

SodoffBaldrick · 03/04/2012 01:39

I really think you need to plan ahead as to how you're going to respond to everyone, even if it's just as simple as 'you've clearly mistaken me for someone who gives a tiny rat's arse the organisers of the trip. I am not. If you have any particular grievances with the way the trip was organised, I suggest you take it up with them. I can't help you - I was simply relaying their message'.

And then repeat ad nauseum, without getting drawn into any, 'but you should've', 'you could've' nonsense.

WomanInTheMoon · 03/04/2012 07:09

Thank you, yep will be sticking to facts!
Gah, it's so petty, I'm embarrassed even writing it.

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pohara · 03/04/2012 10:47

It's petty but it's the sort of thing that can fester and turn into even bigger thing.

They sound very silly and annoying.

At least you got to stay warm and eat dinner! neh neh neh neh neh

MarquiseOfMelburnia · 03/04/2012 10:54

I wouldn't worry too much about it - sounds like they were just a bit narked having to stand in the cold for 30 mins longer than they thought, wishing they were back in the pub.

Not your fault, but I can understand how a later pick up time would seem like forever if they were already standing there waiting.

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