I think I'm not BU but don't know how to react when P gets back.
I've got flu like symptoms so am feeling rubbish and sensitive. P has been an insensitive twat since first thing.
Started the day with DC ( DD1 4 years DD2 2 years and DS 6 months) wanting to go down stairs, P sat in bed and turned the radio on high on his iphone. so with that, my headache and DC noise I took them down stairs.
I basically did everything like always with him ignoring the fact I was struggling. I then went for a bath and ended up with DD watching me and DS screaming down stairs with P watching TV and only dealing with DS when I was in earshot.
DD2 is has an immune problem that is being investigated but basically, she can't fight infection very well and is in and out of hospital at the moment but we are struggling to control her recurrent infections.
DD2 started up with her breathing problems ( so I bet we are looking at another infection) I started her on all her emergency meds and shouted to P, think this will be another hospital trip and I would need to prepare. he made grumbling sounds in agreement.
P then got dressed and went out the door, I thought he was going shopping for baby milk etc (DS is BF but we mix feed in hospital ) No he has bugged off to the indoor snow place 1 hour away skiing claiming to not know DD2 was ill. She currently sounds like we have a train in the living room and nebuliser on so you can't miss it.
P says I knew he was planning on skiing today and I didn't tell him he couldn't go so isn't in the wrong and won't be back for another 3hours.
So now Im left finding backup childcare for DD1 and DS while I see what affect the meds have on DD2. Knowing if they don't work I'll have to leave DD2 at the hospital because I won't be allowed to stay with my flu'y symptoms ( she is isolated when she goes in).
I'm fuming with P but how do I deal with it when he chooses to reappear? Also yes our relationship is currently worse than rubbish and DD2 hospital trips are pushing it over the edge. But neither of us have the energy to fix it until DD2 is better/diagnosed. He struggles to understand DD2 needs/meds and is frustrated with the NHS.