To feed dd in the baby changing room

[MarriedInVegas]

Really not sure if i wbu, i obviously didn't think so at the time! I was shopping in the supermarket today, when dd starts having a very loud meltdown in her pram! (shes about 5months now) I tried the dummy, distracting her with toys, cuddles blah blah blah, anyway... nothing works. Decided to go feed her. The little cafe bit at the front was closed, which is where i would normally go sit to feed her, so i went to the baby changing room, which has a chair in the corner. Anyway dd usually feeds for about 15-20 minutes at a time so i didn't want to take up the only baby changing facility for that long of a time so i closed the door over,but still open and unlocked iyswim so that other parents would still be able to access it.
After about 10 minutes a lady came in with her toddler boy she looked at me, looked embarrassed and apologized. i said it was fine, i left the door open deliberately for the purpose of others being able to use the facility. lady leaves anyway and waits outside. I finish feeding dd and on way out the lady approached me and a told me (in a very polite way, not aggressive in anyway) that really i should have gone in and locked the door and that is the right etiquette for the situation. i had no idea really that it was a "situation"? im just wondering if iwbu? I genuinely thought i had done the reasonable thing!

I've done exactly the same. No big deal. I was feeding in the changing room cos there was a chair there not because I wanted or needed privacy.

Away i go then. i knew i was far too boring to be being unreasonable! [hangs head in shame] thankyou for your time

Maybe she just meant to give you a bit if privacy so you're not having to sniff shitty arses while feeding? That was my first thought

Fair enough - you didn't lock the door, so weren't physically stopping a dirty nappy getting changed, but don't get why you felt the need to feed a child in an environment that would inevitably smell of poo. I wouldn't have BF my DD in an environment like a toilet - just think it's a bit odd. What was stopping you from finding somewhere hygenic to feed your child?

Don't hang your head!

It's not like you were being horrid about her, you sounded like you were worried more than anything!

I think both of you were probably just too nice! :)

Gosh. I've breastfed mine in the middle of a bookshop. We are allowed. That Is The Law. Stuff fifty-nine conflicting versions of the etiquette of the matter.

Thanks everyone!

Minshu i wasn't feeding my child somewhere unhygienic. Its whole purpose for being there is that it is a changing/feeding room. The chair is away in the corner, not near the actual changing bay. And as for finding somewhere else to feed her, i had the option of walking around the supermarket carrying her or outside in the cold car park. i chose the changing/ feeding room oddly enough. anyway, that wasn't my aibu. i was questioning about the door being locked/unlocked. but thanks all the same

There was a thread last year objecting to some woman locking the door of a parents' room, or something, because she was breastfeeding, so YANBU.

Her idea of etiquette is wrong. There is no etiquette in this "situation"

You have the right to breast feed publically.

Anyone who tells you you should do it behind a locked door is a knob and has an issue.