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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to be upset at rudeness of thie teen today?

24 replies

CocktailQueen · 31/03/2012 20:10

Was in Subway with the kidstoday. They had subs, I had a cup of tea. Teenage boy in queue started talking to me, asking me was Subway my fav fast food, and telling me how healthy it wa. I was preoccupied paying for the kids' meal and choosing cookies for them.

Then the teen asked, 'what's your fav food - I bet you prefer a full fry up with loads of grease'.

I looked at him, thinking wtf? then the penny dropped - he was taking the piss out of me as I am overweight :(

Haven't been able to stop thinking about it since. Gah. AIBU to be upset?

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pigletmania · 31/03/2012 20:11

Yanbu nasty little git. Ignore!

HalfPastWine · 31/03/2012 20:12

Tosser

You should have turned round and said ' If you're referring to my weight, I'll lose this but you'll always be a fooking ugly tosser'

...then run!

blapbird · 31/03/2012 20:13

should have shoved the sub up his sub way what a dick head he'll be making your sandwiches for the rest of his career don't worry.

TheBigJessie · 31/03/2012 20:14

YANBU, but think! He's got to live with the consequences of being an unpleasant little sod. He'll get his just desserts, while hopefully, you'll never see him again.

NurseJennyLee · 31/03/2012 20:15

Little shit, one day he'll look back on how obnoxious he was and cringe.

I'd have been upset as well, really really try to not let it bother you (not easy I know), he was out for a reaction or thought he was funny, silly little boy.

MarquiseOfMelburnia · 31/03/2012 20:16

Cheeky monkey. Don't you worry - people like that always end up saying the wrong thing to the wrong person eventually. And I bet he won't get off so lightly then.

Convert · 31/03/2012 20:20

What a little bastard. Forget him.

TidyDancer · 31/03/2012 20:26

I've never forgotten the time when (while I was overweight) I walked out of a gig in London and a boy/man (didn't look back so I don't know his specific age) shouted (so loads of people could hear) "FAT!" at me. :( I carried on walking like nothing had happened because I was so upset and embarrassed, but it totally ruined a really good night. I could hear one of the wankers friends saying "that's not very nice" half-heartedly, and wanker said (loudly again) "well it's true, look at her". I will never forget that. I cried. :(

So no, YANBU to be upset. I've been there. Unfortunately there are many, many wankers in the world who think it's okay to abuse someone because of the way they look. Disgusting.

nobutyeahbut · 31/03/2012 20:37

You sound like a lovely mum taking your dc's for lunch who had the mis fortune of running into a horrid, stupid little shit.

Do not let him occupy your thoughts any longer.

Shutupanddrive · 31/03/2012 21:10

on your behalf. Forget him he's not worth it

lazymonkeyface · 31/03/2012 21:29

He's an arse! It would play on my mind too, but try not to let it. He's just being rude

Cassettetapeandpencil · 31/03/2012 21:33

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hiddenhome · 31/03/2012 21:38

People who are that nasty and horrible and who feel the need to put others' down are not experiencing a happy life.

MarriedInVegas · 31/03/2012 21:42

How disgusting, reading a few of the replies to the op, im really shocked that people come out with these things! whats the point of being so hurtful to someone you don't even know. makes me
OP Ignore them. id much rather be an overweight,but kind and lovely person than a skinny, but nasty shit bag! Hope you enjoyed your sub though! i had a gorge meatball marina today! deeeeelish! xx

floweryblue · 31/03/2012 21:47

Why are you so sure he was taking the piss?

Some most teens are socially awkward, he may have just learned something which he was trying to share in a conversational way which went a bit wrong.

Aribura · 31/03/2012 22:32

I find it harder to believe people are dicks if there's nobody around to show off to. I know I grew up with herds of dickheads who would spite you in a group but wouldn't say anything if they were on their own.

Aribura · 31/03/2012 22:32

What I'm trying to say is are you sure you got the right end of the stick

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CocktailQueen · 31/03/2012 23:07

Thanks all :)

He was with his mates -4 of them. Who were all standing round listening and smirking :( Didn't know why at first till the penny dropped.

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FondleWithCare · 31/03/2012 23:24

for you, it's awful. Do your best to forget it.

I went through a time of being depressed where I just couldn't bring myself to eat anywhere near enough. I was getting better but very underweight when a man stopped me in the street to ask if I was anorexic and to tell me to it. I burst into tears, went home feeling like shit and too depressed to eat for the rest of the day. Thanks for that, prick.

missingmumxox · 01/04/2012 01:40

forget it, I was walking out of ASDA 1 day and some couple behind me started talking loudly about the fat fucking bitch in front of them, I had been as I do, people watching and dispite not being exactly thin myself, i guessed the comments whern't in my direction, the family I had been watching and a quick glace back, had been in the next till to me and I had heard the other couples nasty comments in the line already, I was livid,

the lady they where abusing was over weight, well so was I and the couple shouting it where no fine figures of human either, the abused lady look to be about 24-26 and she had her 3 children with her, I had my two and that is what I think tiped me over the edge, to interveen, when the couple who I think where late 20's went past me and started really shouting at her.
I was mid 30's at the time.
I have only my memory for this, but I remember they said "a fucking fat bitch like that shoudn't be able to look after fucking kids! they should fucking be taken off the fat bitch" I just went mental I will admit, and said, "well she can lose weight, you are just arseholes! don't scream abuse for no reason in a car park with children about! it adds nothing to your arguement " I will admit I fancy myself as Hatty Jacques with a bit of Stephen Fry, but they both diverted off and left the family alone.. I think looking back I was so Radio 4 nobody actually understood what I said but I sounded like their old head teacher :)

flyingspaghettimonster · 01/04/2012 02:34

Little sod. I hate people who don't care how much they hurt others. I was once told by a 'friend' that her flat mates called me' the fat ugly munter' behind my back. I was so hurt as I wasn't even that big and had never felt ugly before. another night out years later with my stunning size zero friend, some drunk guy in a club came over holding both hands up to us for a high five... We both reluctantly raised our hands... And he slapped her hand, then looked in disgust at me and said ' why would you even think I meant you?'... I haven't been for a girls night out since. These bastards destroy self confidence and something that means nothing to them remains in the memory of the victim forever. I hope karma gets them all.

ToffeePenny · 01/04/2012 04:09

Cretins. I remember being a teenager and unfortunately there always seemed to be one group of lads in every year who would do this sort of thing in a misguided attempt to try and impress their peers.

It didn't matter who the target was - they'd find something - short/fat/thin/tall/blonde/dark and if there was nothing obvious they'd opt for insinuating ugliness or disability.

What used to bug me then was that none of the 'mates' ever did anything to stop it or reign it in, implying that they condoned it. I'd step in with something like missingmum (only a lot less erudite - 'prick' and 'tosser' were pretty much the nuclear option for me)

Luckily I came from a pretty rural area so word would eventually get back to the cretin's parents and they all seemed to grow out of it eventually.

The stories of grown men still doing this are depressing.
Flying - please tell me your friend said/did something?

WhirlyByrd · 01/04/2012 10:16

People can be horrible, rude idiots. I once had a guy queue jump In a shop. When I pulled him up on it he started insulting me "look at the state of yer" etc etc. so I turned round and said "I'd rather look like me than have to be you. "

Angeleena · 01/04/2012 10:29

You have to try to concentrate on the fact that there is something far wrong in his life or with him to make doing a nasty, spiteful thing to some stranger a necessity.

He is not a happy, self-assured individual or why, oh why would he get a kick out of doing this.

There is something deep down not right in his life so console yourself with that thought. Also he probably is not even aware of his problem (?hidden anger) so it will affect him until he resolves it which is probably never.

So HE is in a much more unfortunate position than you but I won't suggest you feel sorry for him

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