To be miffed at no replies?

[Bogoffubastard]

Im wondering if you send someone a message, in any form, and they don't reply but still speak to you by other means and say a day has past (still no reply to the original MSG) but you then need to MSG them again but this time they do reply...does it mean they were purposefully ignoring the first MSG? Did it slip their mind (not sure how If they reply to the 2nd MSG)
If you do this why? Or am I being oversensitive?

Give them the benefit of the doubt that they forgot the first time or didn't get it (my mobile is playing up and sometimes messages take hours to come through!!). Or just ask them!!

Sometimes messages don't get through

What about MN PMs? They go through right?

Either they forgot (and possibly now think it's unimportant as you didn't mention it either), something means they are not ready to reply, or a gremlin ate your message.

Whichever the real reason, I would send the original message again, possibly adding an explanation at the start saying you're not sure if it got through the first time.

But what if they were purposely ignoring it and I send it again, won't that be forcing a reply?

What was it about?!

I would say that they were getting round to replying to the 1st one when you sent the second, which they thought was more important, and since you didn't mention the first one, they assumed it was resolved? I guess the question about whether to send it again depends on whether it is more important that you get a reply to it or more important that they are not forced into a response?

Well two msgs went out to two people, one personal and the other I guess didn't warrant a reply, although reciprocation would have been polite rather than just ignoring it...
It could be one hasn't been read yet but I think the other was but just not replied to...maybe forgotten...nevermind.
Thanks for all your replies

If someone was using the iPhone app they can't see if they have a message.

if they replied to the second message and are communicating with you by other means, I would say the other message has been missed/forgotten about and you are being paranoid

If you don't need a reply, then why send the message? And why is repeating a message (which might not have reached recipient or been deleted accidentally "oh rats, but if it's something important she'll tell me, I'm seeing her later on")

There are various possibilities, and there are neutral ways of resending.

But you seem concerned about this, and "forcing" a reply, which does suggest something rather strained. Is a message the best way to deal with a tricky subject? When would you next be seeing them face to face?

Maybe when they see your nn they take the hint.

Yes but where does it stop? You send someone a PM, probably agreeing with or thanking them for something they've posted, they respond politely, then comes another PM thanking them for replying and.... ad nauseum.

Were the messages important? I don't use texts, for example, for anything that matters. If I need to 'speak' to somebody, I ring them.

We've become friends via MN but I was just abit miffed though I suspect I'm being oversensitive.