To worry my DD will end up as low in confidence as her mother?

[nespresso]

I worry all the time about passing this trait onto my daughter. She must pick up on how I am socially. I hate going out and socialising when I feel low so I'm stopping her from socialising as much as her friends.

I'm only comfortable with people I've known for years, and I think I give off the wrong signals to new people, that I am unapproachable.

It's mainly around the mums at school that I feel like this. I just wish I could stop feeling like I'm in a goldfish bowl with other parents looking on and watching, judging the way I talk to, discipline, and generally look after my children.

The other mums all seem self assured, calm, together. I feel like it's written all over my face how insecure I feel about being a good mum.

I'm much, much happier after accepting I am like I am and other people have to accept it too.

And they do. I 'know' lots of mums at the school who still say hello and have a chat even though I must give off awkward vibes. They don't seem to care.

You think the other mums always seem so patient and lovely just after saying you don't shout at your DCs in public You're just doing what the rest of us do and keep the shouting and discipline private, if you didn't you'd be bawling down the street at your DC and nobody likes to see that

I'm sure the other mums just think you're lovely and patient as well. It's not being a fraud to keep some things private.

another article on introversion, very interesting!

I feel exactly the same I'm so glad I came across this thread! I'm hoping next year will be different when my youngest starts at the school nursery. I worry that I will always be lonely and friendless. I feel like I have lost the ability to make friends. Something that came so easy pre kids :(