to sit on my arse, scoff sweets and drink wine tonight.

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Today was my due date for a pregnancy that failed last summer. Dh has not remembered and is huffing and puffing about doing things while I just sit on my backside. He clearly wants me to do stuff ( I made dinner while he put DS to bed and had to refit a curtain rail that fell down last night), but never asks me outright. Then again, I have not told him the date today,

AIBU to do fuck all tonight and feel a bit sorry for myself? Or should I "get a grip". We have both been emotionally okay about it, but today I want to wallow.
Just today.

I think you should tell him, then eat a family sized rice pudding.

Sorry you're feeling crap

You are totally not being unreasonable. Don't lift a finger, you have every right to wallow today. I am going to have an extra glass of wine and some chocs for you too. x

Hugs to you and yes you are perfectly entitled to sit and take time out and "wallow". A little me time is good for you. Put your feet up and relax and then try as best you can do have a good nights sleep, you deserve it xxx

nope yanbu

YANBU. Def a time for wine and sweets. (I would tell him though). Especially since you have just got on with everything since, it seems right for you to put some time aside like you are. Sod the jobs, some things are more important.

YANBU.

Truth be told, I know I am not BU. I just feel I want to tell someone - two people knew about today. Both of them were kind and said something lovely, but I cannot bring myself to tell anyone else in RL, DH included. It will just upset me too much and in then upset DH.

Ah well, maybe it is best for him to be annoyed with me rather than seeing me cry .

Oh, and thanks for all the kinds words. I do appreciate them.

Have been there myself a couple of times and still remember even though i have 3 wonderful DC's. have lots of chocs and wine and give yourself a big hug. it is pants but it gets better.

you just scoff and slurp away what a rotten day , tell him how you are feeling then drink some more , Not had the best day myself but no wine so its crisps and cola fr me

. Hope you're ok.

Have been there too. Definitely wallow. But please tell DH now, before too much wine. Don't wait until he's got really grumpy and then fling it at him in 'you didn't even remember' kind of way, because that's not fair. Better for you to tell him what's wrong calmly and have wine and chocolate together.

But you get to choose what crap to watch on TV to accompany the wallowing.

Ah please tell him then you can cuddle up together

Such kind words - thanks, everyone! I feel fine today though quite tired. I will probably remind DH on the weekend. He knows it is roundabout now but not exactly when.

He calmed down after a while last night and no squabble followed so all's good.