To be really upset with DH?

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I have had a really nasty cold/flu thing for the last 5 days. Raging temp, cough, generally feeling awful. I was hoping it would clear on it's own but still feeling rough this morning I said to DH that I will have to see the GP today and checked what time he would be home. He said 5 but would try and get home a bit earlier (he works flexi), so I said what should I do if I get an earlier appointment and he said just to let hime know. I managed to get appoinment for 5.20 when I phoned at lunchtime and texted DH, he phoned me 10 mins ago saying he had only just got my message and wasn't going to be home in time. I am feeling really rough and there is no way I can manage to take the three small DC with me. He says he doesn't have his phone on him all the time and it is my fault as I should have tried to call him seeing as I hadn't heard back from him. As he usually doesn't reply to texts, had told me to let him know if I got an appointment and seeing as he didn't have his phone on him he wouldn't have answered if I had phoned I don't really think that is a good excuse. I know I am overeacting but I feel so rough and the surgery have no more appoinments that I am sat here crying over his apparant lack of care.

Take to your bed and rest properly. If you are getting up at 6 and carrying on like normal then he is assuming that you are well and don't need help. It doesn't matter what you are saying - your behaviour is telling him otherwise.

Some of you women are really harsh !
And it sounds like a lot of you who are criticising her have a bum deal from your DHs.
Caring about each other when sick is part of a good relationship.
And no , just because OP has been left at home all day with the DC it doesn't mean she is ok well enough to cope . It's called having no choice .
There are some really archaic attitudes here.

I'm always shocked that some people on here expect so little from their DH's. If I was really ill and had 3DC hanging off me I would expect my DP to come home and help regardless of how 'important' his flaming job was. Children are a shared responsibility and my role as a mother is no less valuable that that of the wage earner. If I was employed I could take a paid sick day but as a mother I seem to be entitled to nothing and am told to 'grin and bear it'. I won't accept that kind of logic and more fool you if you do.

And OP ignore everybody that tells you it's not worth going to the GP with flu - it's possible you may have got a secondary infection from the flu - which will respond to antibiotics.
This may be the case as you have a temperature.

OP I didn't mean you when I said 'more fool you....'by the way. I meant those that see motherhood as a cross for women to bear. Sorry on my high horse!!!

redbunny clearly the consensus is that a mother has no right to take care of her physical and emotional needs !
And how very dare she expect them to be considered by her DH!

Make the fucker take the day off! They are his children too!

I agree you do need to see a doc if you have a heavy chest with the flu as its perfectly easy to get a chest infection or even pneumonia if you leave it. They can be right buggers to shift so the sooner the better.

From what you've said I think he should have been back at 5 at the latest.

Ability to take time off allowing - he SHOULD book a day off at the very least so you can recouperate a little, and you should be having the lie ins for a while - and of course you should see a doc. One day off now or two weeks off when you're totally out of action, it's not much to ask and it would be the kind thing to do! And yes they are his kids too, yes he works but you are ill! Hope you feel better soon YANBU.