what do you think?

[PooPooInMyToes]

Really not sure if this should bother me or not. I am having group counselling and had no family of my own to ask if they would look after my children as obviously i can't take them with me. So before i started i asked my sil if she would do it. I explained that it would be for 10 weeks and that if she couldn't do it i would probably not be able to go. She agreed and decided she would have my children at her house.

What with getting there and back its a couple of hours once a week.

Anyway i am 7 weeks in and she has let me down twice already due to other things she has going on. She arranged a delivery of a new sofa one of the times so said she couldn't do it that week as she didn't want my kids at her house in case they got hurt she said. Her own was there.

I can't rearrange the sessions as it in a group so once i miss it its missed.

I know she's not obliged but can't help feel she's doing it on purpose as we had a disagreement a while back. I feel like Im being punished.

YANBU, your SIL agreed to help you out and presumably she knows how important this was to you. 10 weeks is a fairly lengthy comitment though so is is possible that she really did forget or that these reasons were genuine? It is really frustrating for you I bet.

DOES she know how important it is to you?

Annoying, but there isnt a lot you can do about her letting you down- do you have a reliable friend you can ask for the last 3 weeks?

yanbu. Really annoying if she has offered to help.

Haven't you got a friend you could ask the last 3 weeks?
Or get kids dad to take couple of hours off work for one of them

Does the place where you have counseling have a crèche?
They may be able to help if you explain

No, no creche.

One of the weeks which was the assessment my husband took time off work and the 2 actual sessions she cancelled on me i missed. There are only a few weeks left so it shouldn't be too much of a problem, at least Im hoping it won't happen again. I just wasn't sure if i was reasonable in being a bit peeved. She arranged the delivery a couple of weeks in so it not like she forgot about it. I know its a long commitment and i would have been perfectly understanding if she had said at the start that she couldn't commit.

What's worse is that places in the group soare like hold dust and some people wait years. I have been lucky to get in and i would have then to feel they wasted the place on me.

I just can't help but feel she's doing it on purpose.

Excuse the predictive text nonsense.

Yanbu obviously she is doing you a favour but i think if you agree to help someone out in the first place then you've made a commitment and it's a poor show to let them down

Maybe she felt she couldn't say no? Especially since you wouldn't have been able to go if she hadn't agreed. I can see why your peeved. Why do you think she is doing it on purpose?

Because her and her family are annoyed at me and my husband. My mil has been asking to look after my children for the evening to give us a break. We say yes then at the last minute she changes her mind whilst pulling a smug face. Now SHE is definitely doing it THAT on purpose.

My husband unfortunately has the role of scapegoat in his family whilst sil is the golden child.

And yes we are reading toxic parents! People on here keep recommending it to me.