AIBU to go to MN for advice before I ask my Mum?

[lukeiamyourmother]

I feel a bit about this but also glad that I won't be making the same mistakes she did. Just new ones! Ha!

• First night out of hospital after being born : "You just have to leave him to cry, he has to learn he can't have it all his own way"
• He was born with a common deformity on his spine : "That's because you didn't drink whole milk"
• When weaning : "You can't let him eat with his fingers, yuk! He will make a total mess of everything. Wait until he's much older before you start letting him do it" (He's 15mo)

Anyone else have a mum that can't really be relied on for advice? I just know she will pour scorn on everything I do. It's sad really but at least MN can answer anything for me!

Ah yes - sadly some Mum's just are rubbish in the advice department. Mine has come out with some crackers ideas though I can't think of any examples off the top of my head. My Mum isn't nasty, just a bit bonkers sometimes.

I look upon it as the hand I was dealt with in life and consider myself blessed I have other good things which make up for it.

So of course YANBU.

I don't have a mum thankfully so MN is filling that role for me
You get some crazy tips on here but the majority is brilliant!
You don't have to do what anyone tells you, just follow your head/heart! But based on what you've said I'd go to MN only!!

I'm impressed by your total faith in the internet! But join the club. Everyone will know better than you when you have a baby. Nobody (with rare exception) will be 100% right.

To add to this, there is the constant moving of the goalposts. Therefore those of us with grown up children will almost certainly have been told to put them to sleep on their stomachs. Nowadays, this would cause absolute horror. In my MIL's day, they put babies out in the snow for an "airing". In my day, I thought this was utterly bizarre. Everyone was quite sure that the way they did things was correct. But there are no absolutes.

Of course I don't trust everything! But sometimes I just think, hmmmm I wonder if what I just did will scar him for life. To the internet!

I do understand the moving of the goalposts but my mums goalposts are on Mars. I think having children has made me see the differences in us so clearly!

I'd agree about the differences emerging after having children. Even my own, always level-headed and never interfering mother, could come out with some very strange ideas. Her views on vaccination astonished me.