estate agent keeos callig me "love" and "hun"

[only4tonight]

And it makes my teeth itch! I have never met the man, I am a 31 year old woman with a dh and a dc and I am not his bloody "love".

Ffs ....... Grumble...estate agents....mutter...grumble......grumble

One of my customers (gay male) calls me "hun" when he texts me. Hate anybody calling me that, but as he's a customer, I just have to suck it up.

Karma I want to buy a house off him. I prefer dealing with the women at my estate agency as the man seems to witter on and on but that's beside the point. I KNOW he doesn't mean any harm by it, I know he is not intentionally trying to belittle or irritate me, but it DOES. I can't help it it just does.

Thanks stratters. When my "falling down" moment comes I will know who to turn to.

Tbh, I think that being irritating is in the job description for an estate agent.

Can you not just use another estate agents?

'Sugar tits' has the same effect on me, that 'love' and 'hon', has on you, so I'm not without sympathy, really

i am a man and receptionists and whatever else say things like this too. get over it.

As I said it a house I want to buy so the vendors choice of agent really isn't up to me. Also as I have also said this is merely a minor irritation, at least this one returns my calls, is capable of using email and doesn't want me to come to his office for a full personal and financial review before I can arrange a viewing. So he is one of the better ones.

'get over it'? Get over being called a certain name if you feel it demeans or patronises you? Er, no thanks.

Oh, I thought you were looking at houses generally, not settled on a particular one. Apologies.

Woah mini. I didn't say it was exclusive to men did I? It pissed me off if a woman calls me hon too.

This guy has 2 houses on his books but 1 is of particular interest and if it is as nice as the pictures suggest I think we will be offering. Fingers crossed.

Fingers crossed for you love

Thanks -sweetcheeks-

sweetcheeks second time lucky?

Around here the word 'cock' is used in much the same way as 'love' or 'Hun', as in "alright, cock". (I think it's derived from the phrase 'me old cocker' I have absolutely no idea what it means!). Maybe you could use it next time he gets a bit over familiar? :)

Aaaarrrgh I HATE this!! Super patronising!! Last summer, I was in a group of passengers bumped by Sleazyjet and the customer 'service' woman took us all aside to explain the situ and kept on calling us all 'guys'. I was so annoyed at the end of her "right guys, what's happening guys is, the flight is full guys speech I wanted to yell at her. We are not all GUYS you stupid woman. of course my anger was probably magnified by the fact that I had a couple of wan faced children hanging off me weeping because they thought we weren't going on holiday anymore!!

I hate patronising estate/letting agents... A few years ago one told me 'not to worry love, if it does happen the eviction won't be for six weeks yet' in a massively patronising tone. (issue was landlord not paying his mortgage despite us paying rent).

Incensed on my behalf DH mentioned it when he next spoke to them ( we took turns as they were so obnoxious/useless). Agent told him he was just offering me reasurance (as if I was too stupid to realise that a possible eviction in 6weeks is still an issue... I mean, oh yeah, not homeless for six weeks? Oh thats fine then....)

I can understand that such terms shouldn't be used in certain situations but generally, I don't mind 'hun' and 'love'. I am Northern mind! If it is meant well, then why worry.

It's not a massive deal but when someone calls me love it takes all my energy not to instinctively shout "you don't know me so I am not your fucking love!" Then I don't hear the next thing they say, which may well be very important and reasonable.

It's not a rational thing. Rationally I know they mean no harm and I wouldn't overly worry about it. It's that first instinctive reaction that gets me and I can't stop myself screaming in my head, I normally manage to keep it in my head unless I am already in a blazing row.

I got hunned in an email from a colleague today. It made my eyes do this O_o and my finger hover over the delete button.

What a patronising estate agent! I would go to another agent and tell the first one why you were moving to another. Inform the second agent that you would not tolerate being called Love or any other 'term of endearment'. They are not terms of endearment. They are the way a man patronises a woman because he thinks that she knows nothing.

I used to live in Devon where the local ladies in the cafe would call everyone, male and female, "My lover." It still makes me fall about laughing and it gave some of my male friends a fit of the blushes.

Try the east midlands where men call each other duck.

Only good thong about the scabs mind.