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Would this annoy you?

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housedilemma · 26/03/2012 20:00

Went to one of DH's relative's birthday party on the weekend. The birthday was a 'big' one. The couple (the birthday person and spouse are very generous to my DH, myself and our DD).

I managed to buy something which would be useful to the couple, it is normally fairly expensive but I found a good deal which was a third of its normal price - bringing it down to around what we would normally spend.

Today now, MIL has rang asking how much we spent on the present etc. Saying we shouldn't have spent so much etc. I had a feeling that this would happen. DH refused to give the actual price but said it was a good deal and not to worry etc. She seemed a bit put out and now wants to buy something more expensive for the birthday person as her present.

Would this sort of nosiness annoy you too?

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ItWasThePenguins · 26/03/2012 20:02

Yes. It's none of her business. Spend what you want/can afford/how much you value person. There's no need to "outdo" everyone else.

WipsGlitter · 26/03/2012 20:04

Yes. Some people are so grabby about presents. Very rude to say she wanted you to pay more.

housedilemma · 26/03/2012 20:06

Thanks.

Wipsglitter - sorry I meant that she wants to buy a bigger present from herself/ FIL for the birthday person, not that she wanted us to spend more.

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OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 26/03/2012 20:07

Yes, that would annoy me. Your mil is silly.

NoOnesGoingToEatYourEyes · 26/03/2012 20:15

It would annoy me too.

PurplePidjin · 26/03/2012 20:20

Highly irritating, neither giving nor the associated demonstration of respect and affection are competitive sports!

Anniegetyourgun · 26/03/2012 20:22

Isn't it supposed to be very, very, very bad manners to ask what something cost? (Unless you're supposed to be paying them back for it, obviously.) OK, not as bad as the recipient asking, but still, awfully bad form. Bet MIL never went to finishing college.

ChippingInNeedsCoffee · 26/03/2012 20:28

What a fruit bat - ignore, ignore, ignore!

Mollified · 26/03/2012 20:32

OH it must be bugging the hell out of your MIL Grin

And yes it is very rude of her to ask and even more so to indulge in competitive present giving

DoubleGlazing · 26/03/2012 21:38

YANBU

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 26/03/2012 22:16

Lie to her, tell her it was about £300 more than they normally sell for, and when she asks why you were so extravagant, say "oh but we LOVE [birthday person] so much, and wanted to push the boat out this year since it's his/her Xth"
Twill drive her insane Grin

housedilemma · 26/03/2012 22:29

Thanks everyone.

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