To have asked DPs 10 year old niece to say 'thank you'??

[Babycameearly]

DPs niece visited on Friday - he gave her £10 and said 'that's to spend on your holidays'. Niece took the money,put it into her bag and said 'I've got £40 to take now'. No thanks at all - DP nor her parents didn't prompt her (not that I think she should need prompting at 10!!) so I asked her to thank DP (only on a non aggressive 'ooh, did you forget some little words there DN?' way)

She did grudgingly say 'thanks' but her parents didn't seem impressed that I'd pushed it - aibu to have prompted her?

Yanbu - i prompted my 7 yo neices as they didn't say it, and sis and bil don't encourage it. When i said 'are you going to say thank you'? all 4 of them looked blankly at me

Tbh I can see why they found this annoying. My MIL is constantly telling my DCs to say please and thank you for the most minor thing (eg MIL: DS1, do you need a wee? DS1:no MIL: you mean no thank you Nanny).

I am trying to teach them to be polite too, but it winds me up when she does it as I feel it is my job and she is criticising me by implying that I'm not doing that job properly.

Maybe this has more to do with my underlying issues with my MIL!!

You should not have had to prompt her and by her parents reacting that way shows why she didn't say thank you in the first place!! Manners are obviously not their strong point. My daughter same age is extremely shy and I am constantly telling her to say thank you when she recieves a gift, especially money which she gets alot of from relatives. And it had everything to do with you! You gave gave her MONEY! Even if it was a lollpop she should still say thank you, well done for pointing it out and stick to your guns. Manners a FREE!!!

YANBU

i would consider her excited squeal about the 40 pound a thank you more than a two word automatic phrase that is drummed into them since the age of two.

So many people thinking the tone implies a thank you... It's two little words. Not difficult at all. And as for Ariadne, the op had just bunged the child a tenner, how is it nothing to do with her? Can we assume your children are similarly challenged in the manners department?

That 'two word automatic phrase' is a polite social convention honoured in every english speaking country in the world. It matters.

She probably just forgot to say it. She was clearly very pleased. The parents probably thought you were being a pedantic twat and judging their parenting. Im sure that if she had just snatched the money with a grunt they would have said something.

Mrspepper. Made me laugh at having to say no thank you for not needing a wee! Like going for a wee is a gift!

molly - the OP's DH bunked the child a tenner, not the OP.

mrspepprpotty
she makes him say no thank you when she's asked him if he needs a wee?
the woman's batty!

yanbu. My daughters would have been thrilled with a tenner and would most definitely have said thank you.