to ask for a home visit from dr.

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Just wanting to seek some opinions on this really.

Sorry if the following is a bit long and 'waffly' il try to keep it brief.

Am stuck in the house atm due to ds1 having chickenpox, he has had it for 3 days and still has spots appearing.
This morning was getting ds2 (15weeks) dressed and found a hard lump in his groin about the size of a 10p piece.ds2 has been very grumpy, not feeding properly , which is very unusual as he is a very placid baby.
Rung the drs surgery and asked for some advice and whether a dr would be able to come out. receptionist got very snotty and said 'home visits arnt just for anybody' and seemed shocked that i had asked.
Aibu to ask for a home visit??

I have no family/friends available to watch ds1 while i take ds2 to the drs.....
I am not usually a fussy, hyperchondriac type of parent....
I did not expect dr to come out and understand that their time and resources are limited...
But recpetionist left me feeling like a nutty ott mum!!

Thanks for reading all that!!

Thankyou scrablet im sure they'll be fine soon.were just all very sleep deprived and probably why i felt a bit sensitive after the phonecall to the surgery.
Lancaster-this wasnt offered and its not the first time iv complained. last time was due to a breach of data protection so i probably shouldnt be surprised.
Thanks for all the replys.

I think your partner needs to either take one child to the doctor's, or come home to look after the other. That might not be a practical solution in an emergency if he works quite far away, but this isn't actually an emergency, is it?

Sorry but have to agree with the other posters YABU.
At the moment I am largely wheelchair bound, can't drive and live 6 miles from the doctors. I would not even think of asking for a home visit should one of me DC or myself need to see a doctor. I would ask a friend to take me in, I would take any DC with me or ask a friend to watch him, if I couldn't do either of those things I would call DH home from work to take us. Home visits are for people unable to get out of the home at all or for people who are very ill/serious mobility issues who don't have any family, partner, friends able to help at all.

OP, your partner is the chidren's parent too

when you have kids, you do what you have to do

Get a phone appointment. Most surgeries do them. Explain to the charming receptionist you have poxy kids but would like to speak to the doctor about your ds as you can't bring them in. The doctor should ring you back at some point.

I'm amazed your GP doesn't have a "quarentine" waiting room for these cases. I've been stuck in an "interview room" on my own with something contagious before whilst I waited. Obviously people sometimes need to visit the GP with contagious illnesses and they should have some kind of setup for that.

Once I couldn't move and had just given birth to DS and my neck went into spasam and I couldn't even feed the baby and they wouldn't come out I was bed bound and in agony never know anything like it. They diagnosed me over the phone & had to get a relative to go and get my prescription. Thankfully I had a phone close by which was the main thing.

38 weeks pregnant had severe piles agony again sobbing unable to walk toddler in tow they told me straight away they wouldn't come out. I wasn't expecting them too though I knew Id have to go there.

However about 10 years ago I had a home visit from a gp with a severe ear infection I was about 21...... strange???

Very strange mankycat!!
Thankyou for the responses i think i probs abu but do find it knid of shocking that my surgery has no provision for people with infectious illnesses.

Op sorry that you feel flamed - but dr just don't do home visit like they used to and some of us have got used to this quicker than others me rather later than others as I rarely had the need to use a doctor. The last time a gp came to my home was in 1992

I had a dd with breathing difficulties one night around 1am and asked for a visit and was told no I had to go to the walk in center and get the other dc out of bed and take with me as the gp would not come to the house.

I got us all down there and the receptionist was down right rude to me and got a bollocking of the gp as we left.

The gp explained it was standard practice and was infact very pleasant but said if it had been me ill then yes they would have come out but as I was on my own and fit and healthy they they would make me come to them.

my eldest lay down on the floor in the gp's one day as she really was very poorly, the gp came out and asked me why she was laying ont he floor on my coat - I said well she is ill that is why we are here - no home visits you know is what I was thinking... oh I see - he seemed shocked an ill person would be in the waiting room..?

I personally think its the louder you shout Ive worked as a care worker when I was younger and have worked for people who are more than capable of leaving the house who have plenty of willing family and friends to take them but the families kick up a stink and get the GP to come out also I reckon it depends on how well you get on with your GP.

re my last home visit from GP my mum probably kicked up (I still lived at home at this point) a stink I remember lying at home in so much pain next thing there was a doctor there god knows how she managed it???

Haha mankycat good old mums eh?? Yes thats funny you should say that as i used to do home care and can remember some peoples families ringing dra effing n jeffing at them to come to the house. i personally would never have the balls to talk to people like that.

Ivykaty- i dont feel flamed was just saying i wouldnt be surprised as this is aibu :-D

I wouldn't take any notice of a doctors receptionist how on earth is she to know how ill your children are she isn't qualified. Its like when they ask what is the problem when you ring up to make an appointment wtf has it got to do with you????