Mum 'calling the police' on me!

[Mharhi]

My mum keeps ringing me all the time to see 'if I'm alright'. It gets really drainins reassuring her all the time. Yesterday we were out for the day and it was difficult to call back, I just checked my messages and they start out being "I'm worried please ring" then start getting angry "Will you please ring I don't want to have to call the police". She has done this kind of thing in the past. It's a bit unnerving, i just wondered what actually would the police do?!

My MIL tries to do things like this.

If she rings and I answer the phone the conversation usually is along the lines off "Where's A (DH)? Why are you answering the phone? What have you done with him ? Is he sick? Has he crashed his motorbike?" All the while getting shriller and more hysterical.
I just put the phone done. Dh regularly hangs up on her.

Good lord, this thread has made me happy my mum hardly ever calls me!
When i phone her, she is usually asleep or busy, used to make me sad, but much rather that then this .

Has anyone here pointed out their strange behaviour? told them it's not normal?
What did you get back?

I feel your pain. I have a similar (albeit infrequent) situation with my father. I was estranged from him for nearly 20 years because, ironically enough, of his complete disinterest in me as a child after my mother died.

I got back in touch after DS1 was born and a courteous relationship has been re-established and he is a much better grandfather than he was a father. He lives 300 miles away so we only see him a couple of times a year for an hour or so. He has become quite anxious not to lose touch and has developed an annoying habit of ringing, getting my voicemail and then ringing repeatedly leaving increasingly worried sounding (and slightly accusing) messages about how he hasn't heard and is concerned something is wrong. Sometimes he leaves 3 or 4 messages in an hour. It makes me not want to ring back as it feels that he thinks he has a much greater demand on my time than he has a right to after all the years of disinterest.

He has finally got an email address - the other day he sent an email and I didn't reply to it within a few hours so I got a series of "oh dear, I hope you are all right, I can't get in touch" messages which made me want to scream.

At least he only does this once a month or so.

I think if I had a relative like this I'd turn my answerphone off when I was out. My parents got used to not contacting me much when I was at university in premobile days, and then when i got a job I've never given them my work number.
I would get angry if someone hassled me like that and think I would rapidly end up refusing all contact with them unless they could learn to ring once, leave a message and then wait.
I hate being fussed over.