My friend/neighbour has two grown DD's still living at home - she is widowed. Her DD1 is not many years younger than me and has a DP of several years who also lives in our road with his parents.
Both DD's work, my friend does not has always been SAHM (like me) but is OAP now technically. The DD's rarely do any cooking, cleaning etc.
I am getting a bit fed up of myself and DH being asked to do small jobs around her house that she cannot manage. It should be DD's or if 'men's work'
she could ask her DD's partner (or even his Dad). She never asks them and they rarely offer. I know if we didn't do the things she would struggle to do them herself as she is very houseproud and tidy beyond reason.
This lunch time she phoned to ask if someone could take her DD's quilts back up stairs after she had put clean covers on! Apparently before they went out this morning she asked them to strip their beds 'for her' so she could wash the bedding. They threw all the bedding down the stairs - including the actual quilt
Which my friend says is her fault becuse they 'dont know my routine'
Who doesn't know you don't wash the quilts inside the covers? Told her she should wait til they ge home but she wanted it done as they were 'making downstairs untidy'Knew she would struggle up the stairs with them herself so DH went over to do it for her. Last week DH had to put her net curtains up for her.
DH will do anything for anyone but she has others to help her and they rarely do. There is no way I am going to speak to her DD's about this - I have had words with DD1 before when my Friend called me in tears about something she had actually asked her DD to do (DD said her Mum was lazy 
) - only resulted in the Mum being more upset and a bunch of flowers for me/beer for DH - which is missing the point.
AIBU to expect these grown women to know/be bothered to remove the covers from their own quilts?