AIBU to expect my DH to have a normal conversation every now and again

[Loulou1088]

This is an old one I'm sure.....but every night my DH comes home late from work, then spends all night on the phone with (work) colleagues and then on computer on (work) emails. Any socialising is with work colleagues and all topics of conversation are.......... yep...work. I also have full time job, we have 2 teenage DC who spend most of their time in their rooms on facebook. Have any of you ever decided to get other hobbies to meet other people? If so......what? We've lost touch with old friends becasue of DH's obsession with work (even old work colleagues - he just lives for the people of the moment). I work most nights too, but I'm SO BORED of not having any kind of family life. Some ideas / coping mechanisms please??? Don't bother with....1. talking....2. trying to change behaviour....3. arranging romantic nights out etc. :(

Have an affair?

What made you fall for your dh in the first place? What things did you do together before marriage, important job, and kids came along?

There isn't a coping mechanism as such because there should be some interaction, do you do things together of a weekend, have family holidays, does he have to work such hours?

My DH worked away from home, i did lots of small courses at adult learning centres.

My main hobby has always been my dog, i am a bit of a loner, though.

Sabotage the internet connection and nick the sim card out of his mobile.

Holidays sometimes an issue as too busy to come along. Also no (IMO) he doesn't have to work such long hours but chooses to. We have similar jobs in similar settings but I make up time in evening so I can do school run etc. Birdsgottafly - I also have dog and he's great for getting me out but dh also refuses to go on walks (too boring). I need something I can be equally obsessed with but gets me out of the house and meeting other people. Definately not dogging though !!!! :)

Interaction with other people may not make up for the distance between you and DH,but that is for you to decide what it is that you want,adult conversation, or time with him.,because he chooses to work.

Can you have a straight talk and then tell him that you are going to have to plan a life outside the house, because it is unfair, if you miss out on socialising or holidays.

If it is him that you want tospend time with, then things will have to change.