To think it is very insensitive to site the gynae unit in plain view of the antenatal clinic?

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I'm here for fairly straightforward reasons, but for someone with with serious problems which could affect their fertility, or who have to have a hysterectomy at a young age, like the woman who I was sitting next to on my last visit, it must be torture to sit in a waiting room full of happy expectant mothers.

Loopy, no words, so so sorry, hope u r getting the support u need and sending hugs to u xx

When my first pregnancy turned out to be ectopic the ward was right across from maternity, I was OK with that, as someone else said, I was still hopeful that one day I would be one of those mums.

No, for me the worst part would be a toss up between the awful ultrasound operator (not sure of the actual title, is it sonographer?) who after performing the scan announced 'nope, nothing there' like we were expecting that outcome (we were not :() or the doctor who did not speak good english who kept referring to the procedure they were going to use to 'resolve the pregnancy' (my desperately wanted baby) as 'the termination' :(. My husband actually spoke to him about that and asked him not to and his answer was a very patronising 'that is just what it is called'.

Sensitivity does indeed cost nothing.

When DD2 died a few hours after she was born last year like Loopy we were 'lucky' enough to have a private room funded by Sands where we stayed for 2 nights with dd2 and whilst I recovered from emcs. It had a little private kitchen and family room so dd1 could come in too. The lovely midwife escorted us out of the hospital making sure no live babies were being discharged at the same time.

Sadly when we went back to get the post mortem results we had to sit in the scan waiting room with all the happy pregnant couples and then be told she had had cancer in a room next door to someone having an ultrasound and we could hear the whoosh whoosh of the heartbeat Surely we could have been given those results somewhere else in the hospital.

I have been in epu and emergency gynae appointment and was same clinic, same staff. guess it is resources.

ripishpere do you not think the NHS should think about the mental health of its patients?

Absolutely I do, I had 12 or 13 Mcs and a 22 weeker. it was hard, but I did understand how finite the cash is.
Possibly because I am a trained nurse. I don't know.

sorry, I should add, I've had two ERPCs but nothing like the way sixfeet under was treated.

Agree with you 100%

In my local hospital (a leading teaching hospital in London) they moved the gynae ultra sounds from ultra sound/xray to ante natal.

My experience before the move was unpleasent: being asked to sit ready for an internal/gynae scan in a gown next to people who clearly were having randon things scanned and feeling quite uncomfortable wearing very little while I was waiting.

My second a few weeks post miscarriage having to sit in a newly relocated gynae scan area in ante natal but with lots of very happy pregnant women, with baby tv on, baby posters around me.

Sixfeet I can totally relate to that experience when I miscarried the ultra sound person just kept on saying "no, theres nothing there" ... they can be very cold

I work in Gynae and when I was (obviously) pregnant I had to chaperone patients that were there because of miscarriages. It was highly awkward and I felt terrible. We were short staffed so if no other chaperones were around they had no choice but to be chaperoned by me. It is inappropriate.

Also I went onto a maternity ward when I thought I was miscarrying at 16 weeks. I could hear screaming babies and made my anxieties 10 times worse. It's not fair!