To think my mate is being overly sensitive about this facebook tag?

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At the weekend I went out with the girls and a photo was taken where we all gave ourselves silly names. Mine was "morbidly obese" (I looked fat on it), my other friend was "aircraft carrier arse" and my other friend was "drag queen".

I tagged the photo on facebook with these names and whilst drag queen found it quite funny, aircraft arse is really offended by it and asked for it to be taken down (which I did). I then uploaded just a pic of me and drag queen and this friend has sent me a private message saying she wants me to take that down too, even though she's not in it as it makes her look bad for whinging about the other photo.

AIBU to tell her since she isn't in it, she can't dictate?

U to expect the photo removed that isn't of her (or tagged, or anything). I guess I'd remove it if she was a valued friend but thereafter never dare tag her or even dare "like" her posts, thereafter.

I find it very very weird that people expect others to ask them for permission to share pictures or tagged in, I don't feel that I own my image or tag that way! I'm sure I've been tagged in pictures that are exactly and precisely only my SIL's cat (it's her way of getting people's attention on FB). And what's the privacy difference between tagging/posting pictures/liking somebody's FB details? It all seems same to me, privacy wise.

Though I would probably ask for an obviously unflattering image to be removed.

yanbu if shes not on it she has no say IMO

Btw me and my mates do this, Im normally "Ghost Face" because my foundation has those little pearly things in it and in the wrong light it looks white rather than dewy

Fair enough, Beer, it just sounds like something my 4 year old would do if he had access to Facebook.

Fair enough take the first one down, she didnt get your joke, but if you like the second one and the other person has no problem with it then leave it up, its your page not hers.x

You know you can change you settings so people can't tag you in photos don't you?
You can also change your settings so you don't see her updates and therefore relieve yourself of the second 'offending' photo.

You can set your Facebook so that you have to approve any comments or photos that you are tagged in before it goes public.

Can you really?
Do tell how!

If taking photo's, uploading them to fb and tagging them is something you all normally do then I don't see the problem. My group of friends tend to know what would be public viewing approved and only put those on. If you hate them, you can untag yourself. I can understand the name thing though so maybe just use her real name next time or ask beforehand. As for removing a photo that has no relevance to her, she IBU. Don't do it if you don't want to, she is being ridiculous.

It's in one of the privacy settings. I have it set and it's good. No one an tag me at all unless I approve!

add fuel to the fire and send her a private message back asking her to go through all your ablums and state which photos you are and are not allowed to put up on your fb - as dictating to someone what they can and can't put up is getting silly when the photograph doesn't even include them. Then ask her to take several photos down from her albums just so she knows what it is like to have a friend making themselves the facebook photo police.

If that doesn't end your friendship with her - well try a different tact

Go to Account/privacy settings/Timeline and tagging/review friends posts they tag you in before they appear on your timeline/ set to ON.

Oh and I agree that she is being a bit overbearing about the second airing. I don't think it's worth spoiling a friendship over though.

If I can control being shoved out there for viewing pleasure then that's what I'm going to do.

www.facebook.com/settings/?tab=privacy select 'Profile and Tagging' and turn 'review posts friends tag you in...' to on.

Forgive me, I am being really thick - but where can I find 'account'? Thanks.

I have that timeline thing - the layout is all over the place.

Think I've done it.
Great - thanks Clitty.
Nice name!

Well done