or is DH?? - he will only help around the house if I have sex with him?

[chipping]

Over the past few months DH hasn't pulled his weight regarding housework/childcare.

He has also become increasingly unpleasant towards me.

I have found this a big turn off & don't find him attractive anymore. I used to - he used to be kind & attentive.

He now says he will be nice to me if I have sex with him.

Am I being unreasonable thinking that he views marriage as a form of legalised prostitution?

He really does sound awful. I can't see any redeeming features - are there any? What was he like after the older three were born?

Easy. leave him. Having said that, my dp wouldn't even do the housework for sex.

You silly girl. Grit your teeth, think of England, and let him have a go on you. It'll be over soon enough.
You never know-he might do the washing up!

NowThenWreck Hahaha! Oh, sorry, that was my sarcastic laugh. Jog the fuck on.

get him this apron

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but seriously i would get a vibrator and say to him well i am used to doing everything on my own :)

Tell him to fuck off. And then get rid of him. No-one should stay with a partner like that.

And the posters who are advising you otherwise...words fail me.

Er...I was being sarcastic! (somebody got that, right?)

do you cook food for him or irpm shirt/do washing?
I would stop if you do.

NowThen - it's OK, I got it .

Prostitution isn't illegal. (Living off immoral earnings and running a brothel are, but not prostitution.)

Now Then Ha ha ha ha (that was my actual genuine laugh because of your funny joke)

I do think that while he is obviously being utterly unreasonable and a total wanker, just saying "leave the bastard" is not actually terribly helpful. I think relationships are complicated and there may be more to this than the slightly flippant OP? So does he have redeeming features? Do you think that counselling/having a proper conversation about the situation might help?

Oh no, its very reasonable

A bit of a blowjob in exchange for him dusting down the TV

Nice