to not go on friends night out as already accepted another invite?

[Newmummytobe79]

I always go by the rule that you go to the party/event that you got invited to first and not cancel for 'something better'! because it has annoyed me when people have done it to me!

That's it really.

DH's friend sent us an invitation to his and GF's party a while ago and we accepted. Friend has just arranged a night out for her birthday on the same night.

I've been excited about DH's friends party but now feel dreadful telling my friend I can't go on her night out.

AIBU to tell her I've already got plans?

I think it is the polite thing to tell her you already have plans.

Agree with Lesley.

Why didn't you just tell the friend as soon as she mentioned it. You already have plans, simple as that really.

I will definitely let her know.

Just wondering if she'll expect me to cancel original plans to go out with her.

Don't think DH would be impressed going to his friends party without me though or maybe he would and get super drunk!

you know you have to tell your friend you can't go. Its annoying but unless it is a really significant event its first invite first.

I know you're right trixie

Just hate letting people down :(

You aren't letting anyone down. Letting someone down would be if you agreed to do something then caused them inconvenience by changing your mind. You don't have any arrangement with your friedn so there is no letting down involved. She's arranged something, you aren't available to go, it's simple.

You should stick to the first arrangement you made.

I also hate it when people cancel one of my events. (especially when they don't rSVP until close to the event. You can tell they were hanging out for a better offer! )

This is a bit of a non problem really.

You received an invitation, you accepted.

You received a second invitation, you decline on the grounds that you have already accepted an invitation on that day.

Non-issue, tbh.

Otherwise, you'd just be one of those people who accepted an invitation until and unless something better came along, in which case, you'd find all invitations dropping off eventually.