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To think this is a bit pathetic?

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HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 19/03/2012 18:29

Since September, a new girl in DD2's class (year 2) has been unkind to her; thumping her, whispering about her, tripping her up, hiding her things etc. I know kids are kids and DD2 is quite tough and can hold her own, and was sticking up for herself, so I let it go for a certain amount of time. However a few months ago DD came out of school upset one day as this girl had hit her and at the same time the other girl came out of school screeching and screaming and her mum came over to me and had a go at me saying my DD had been horrible to hers. I told her I didn't think it was appropriate to do that in the playground and could we try to sort things out between the girls nicely. She refused and said her daughter was too upset and stormed off.

I phoned the teacher once I got home and the teacher said that my DD is known for being a kind girl who gets on with everyone and in almost 3 years at school has had no problems with anyone and that unfortunately this girl does cause trouble with other children and is known for being unkind. I asked her to try to keep the girls as separate as possible, which she agreed was a good idea, and I told DD to just stay away from this other girl to minimise opportunities for nastiness.

We then had half term and during half term a number of other parents told me that they had been contacted by this woman asking if their children had had problems with DD, and they had said no, never. It was as if she was trying to rally support against DD.

We got back to school and this girls' mum has totally blanked me since. What's worse too is she has befriended another mum, whom I previously was on friendly terms with and this other mum is now totally blanking me too if I say hello to her. I can't say I'm losing any sleep over it but I'm finding it quite laughable and actually it's really pathetic isn't it? I saw the other mum this afternoon at pick up and said a breezy 'Hello' to her and she looked at me like I was covered in dirt, turned her head away and walked off. If I'm standing near them at pick up they chatter away and then both constantly turn round to stare at me. Obviously I don't want to cause a scene at the school by saying anything about their behaviour or asking the other mum if I've upset her at all; my DCs have been going there for quite a few yeas altogether and I've never had any problems with other parents or the staff and I don't want to embarrass myself, so I guess I'll just ignore them.

AIBU to think it's ridiculous and to blank both the mums forever more?

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lisaro · 19/03/2012 18:30

No wonder the child is as she is. Pathetic!

scarlettsmummy2 · 19/03/2012 18:32

I would just ignore them

HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 19/03/2012 18:33

Lisaro, my sentiments exactly.

scarlettsmummy, thats what I've been doing and plan to do; it's difficult though as it's a small village school where everyone generally gets on and knows each other to say hi to. Oh well I guess they will stand out eventually for the bitches that they are.

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AKMD · 19/03/2012 18:35

How strange, YANBU at all.

Shutupanddrive · 19/03/2012 18:35

YANBU, they sound awful. Don't waste any time on them, ignore!

nobutyeahbut · 19/03/2012 18:35

I have had exactly the same thing happen to me.

Ignore them, it's no wonder her daughter is being horrid if that's the example she's set.

HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 19/03/2012 18:37

I meant to say in my OP too that DD recently went to a big party in a hall, and the other girls' mum stayed but I just dropped DD, and this other mum kept saying loudly in front of DD to her daughter 'Yes but she's not a very nice little girl is she?'. I didn't find out until a few days later when DD told me.

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Byeckerslike · 19/03/2012 18:38

I wonder if you are at our local school, there was a battle between two mums played out on facebook last week, resulting in much tooing and froing, the latest i read the main culprit had the great idea to get her ds to 'do some bullying' Shock

headinhands · 19/03/2012 18:38

I find your recount of the phone call with your dd's teacher hard to believe. Was the teacher really that disparaging about the other child? Seems highly unprofessional.

HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 19/03/2012 18:39

Nope nothing was on facebook, byeckerslike, well nothing that I had any part in or saw anyway

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ragged · 19/03/2012 19:07

Poisonous, sadly a few people around like that.
I dunno if I would blank them, more satisfying to be saccharin nice to their faces & never say a bad word about them either, their rudeness in return will speak for itself.

avoidinglibelaction · 19/03/2012 19:14

sounds to me like this ex friend is worth losing if she could be so shallow as to join in - clearly these mums have nothing better to do than to behave worse than children - rise above it and carry on you know YANBU - poor you though it's not nice being treated like this - where i used to love there was a mum like this who was friends with a friend of mine - she used to say things about me in the playground - I found out because another friend told me - she spent most of her time trying to upset me but mostly failed as most of the time I wasn't even aware it was happeneing- funnily enough me not reacting upset her more I should pretend you don't know what's going on and carry on oblivious if she's actively trying to upset you the best thing you can do to annoy her is to behave like you're oblivious.Grin

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