To ask you for stories of passive aggressive things people have said to you?

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Funniest with me was from a 'frenemy' who said to me one day: 'Are you ok?' Me: 'Yes I'm fine thanks' Her 'Oh I'm so glad you're ok, I haven't seen you with dark circles like that under your eyes before' Me 'Well you must have done as I always look like this' Her 'Oh I wish I could be like you and go out looking less than perfect'

My MIL often hands out gems such as "I've brought some dusters, you don't seem to have any."

From (at the time) boyfriend: "You know what's great about you? I've dated loads of women much more beautiful than you, but you really act like you are that beautiful, just totally unselfconscious." Tool.

Oh, and from a work colleague: "You're 29? My girlfriend's 29, but she doesn't look it."

In the 80s I had lots of coat dresses for work. One was spotty and to be fair did make your eyes crossed when ironing it. Colleague said 'Sparkling, are you going to wear that dress all day?'

Ex flat mate: "is that a new pair of trousers you're wearing?"

Me: "Err, no. Why?"

Ex flat mate: "oh right - it's just that they look kind of ok in this light."

Same ex flat mate: "you see the problem is, Rebel, that there are some really good looking girls in X (city where we lived) so girls like us don't really stand a chance with guys here."

Me:

Sparkling - no didn't say a word I was too shocked.

all three SIL are horrid - I refer to them as "the bitches of eastwick".

Former friend when explaining the colour of her new wallpaper "its a dirty ginger colour just like your hair"

A week after having my 3rd child girl I know says, oh she Is lovely but it does age you having babies doesn't it. Cheers like a I didn't feel like a fat ugly old bloater anyway.

After losing 3 stone and dropping from a size 16 to size 10:
MIL: Have you lost anything off your legs?

jabbing thumb in mil's eye emoticon

from an ex friend who was watching me and another friend feeding our babies, me ff my friend bf. My ff dd was (and still is) a skinny little thing:

''there's nothing better than a big, bouncing breast fed baby''

oh do fuck off!

From a friend who visited me in my first ever house. She was the epitome of style and had just finished renovating a lovely old house.

She was looking around at everything, went into the conservatory and said 'oh, it's nice in here, what are you going to put where you have put that table' ...

googleberry your post reminded me of something a 'friend' said to me 2 weeks after I gave birth to my twin boys.

She was about 14 weeks pregnant & said 'ooh, your bump is bigger than mine'!

At the time, it washed over me as I was still on a high after delivering two gorgeous boys, but our other friend, who was also visiting at the time, later told me how cross both she & her DH were with our mutual friend for having said that to me. Neither of us see much of her now!

theyre not passive aggressive, theyre backhanded compliments

Almost everything my mil says. Every time she calls, 'sorry, did I wake you?' uh no, it's 9.30am & I've a 2 year old!!!

She 'll respond to almost any comment DH & I make with a slightly surprised/perplexed, 'oh'. Even if it can in no way be either surprising or perplexing.

Recently (I'm 39 weeks pg) she'll ask me the same few things every single bloody time she sees me (once or twice weekly). Along the lines of 'so why did you have an emcs last time, was it because you got fed up?' yeah, I laboured for 16 hours Inc 2 pushing, but just simply couldn't be arsed!

My favourite though was on being told by my DH that actually she couldn't pop in the next day to visit me & dd (having not bothered for 4 weeks despite invitations) as I was taking dd to. A birthday party, ' oh, well if gaviscon is busy, I take it she's seeing her friend's as usual?

Similarly, addressed to Dd (2) 'so have you been out for coffee with mummy lots this week'!!!

She'll respond to almost any comment DH & I make with a slightly surprised/perplexed, 'oh'. Even if it can in no way be either surprising or perplexing.

Are you my SiL?!

I'm not sure that the majority of these are passive aggressive, TBH. They come across as rude and supremely obnoxious, but not PA!

One from long ago. A woman acquaintance: You know, I always thought you were rather brittle until I got to know you. You're quite nice.

Me Thanks for the unasked-for psychological profile. From the spikiest women I'd met in donkey's years.

Just after I left school, I met a friend of my mother. She asked what I was going to do now I'd left school so I told her I was going to study engineering. She said "oh that's a shame, after you did so well at school" and sort of patted my arm sympathetically.

There is an extremely PA little lad who hangs around MN called Mr Sad, but you might know him as
More often than not he is just sad. But sometimes he is sad for you because you are such a terrible mother
he likes to say things like: 'Wow, I feel so bad for your DD that her mummy and daddy aren't getting along right now. '
disclaimer: i made that example up and I would feel really upset if Mr Sad chose to take that as a personal attack