To cancel birthday celebrations??

[peugotgringo]

We're skint, like everyone else.

We have an unexpected waste expense of £75 this month to fork out for.

An MOT to pay for. SIL's 30th Birthday celebrations.

I've decided to cancel birthday trip to seaside to be sensible and said no present.

Husband is mad with me.

Yet it's MY birthday I'm cancelling not his. AIBU?????

Mmm, well, is he cross because he already bought the present? Is he cross because you did it in a martyred way and will remind him of this forever? Is he cross because he thinks he will look like a greedy beast if he wants a present and a trip out? Is he cross because he now has to find a way to entertain 4 disappointed children?

If not, if he is sincerely 'mad' because he wants you to have a treat, forego the present and keep the trip. Going to the seaside is very cheering when times are tough.

You could postpone your trip, that might make things a bit better with your OH.
Happy birthday anyway, here's some to cheer you up

hmm, I seriously doubt he's bought the present yet - he's not that organised

He's already had his birthday and presents this year and no children to disappoint.

I suppose he does just want me to have a present and the treat - he'd give me the world if he could afford it, but that's the point, we can't afford it.

I think that's why he's mad - i'm missing out but I don't see it that way. I can have something when times aren't hard??

Go to the seaside, it is a nice, cheap day out! Instead of forking out for fish & chips, take a picnic then just buy an ice cream and fly a kite on the beach, or take a ball along and have a family kick-about.

It will cheer you up and ice creams are cheap.

Oh and happy birthday!

thanks guys, it's not actually my birthday just yet it's in May

The seaside trip was going to be an overnight stay and would be 2 nights as birthday falls on a friday and like most places you need to stay a minimum of 2 nights.

I've cancelled because:

1. I wanted to pay in advance so we only needed fuel, food and drinks for the weekend,
2. We already have a short break booked in a few weeks due to friends getting married in the dales so we don't miss out completely in time out together
3. He has a lads trip booked in for May so will need spending money for that.

He will tell me he will work extra to get the money to pay for it, but he works so bloody hard already I want him to just relax. He'll talk me round (which I won't complain about as obviously I'd love to get away) but I'm happy to miss out when times are hard, we can't have everything!

Why are you paying for your SIL's 30th birthday celebration if you can't afford to celebrate your own birthday? . Or have I got that bit wrong?