To be annoyed with youngest DD's teacher

[minesawhitewine]

I've just had to collect my 5 year old daughter from school because she fainted. I'm pissed off with the teacher because my daughter had undone her collar because it felt too tight, the teacher made her do it up again and tighten the tie, then my daughter fainted.

YABU.
If the collar is so tight it is causing her to faint (or even just uncomfortable) then you should buy her a new top. If your DD is feeling so unwell that she is liable to faint at any moment, then she probably ought to be at home.

Aren't all reception ties on elastic? Like, fake ties?

No they're proper ties.

Her collar isn't unbearably tight, she just felt hot and wanted to cool down a bit, she's here now and she's fine, running around and eaten all her lunch.

What redskyatnight said.

You said in your OP your DD's collar felt too tight, and then you say it's not unbearably tight. It's either tight, or it isn't, surely?

If she's well then take her back to school. And buy her a bigger shirt, save it happening again.

Did your DD explain that she was feeling unwell and that's why she'd loosened it?

TBH, ties for infants are utterly ridiculous IMO.

Oh honestly, people. Have you never felt unwell so you loosened your shirt collar? It's not really too tight, it felt too tight.

YANBU, OP. Although I would be worried about why it felt too tight and why she fainted, even if she's fine now.

I'm not annoyed that they called me. I'm annoyed that the teacher wouldn't let her undo her collar to cool off a bit, then she wouldn't have fainted.

A good case for shirts and ties on little kids being ridiculous.

I would say that if the collar and tie attributed to the fainting then both you and the teacher are at fault. You shouldn't put her in so tight a collar, and the teacher shouldn't insist it be buttoned up.

Wouldn't happen with a nice sensible polo shirt.

Hope your dd is alright. x

What tee said.

YANBU. I would be annoyed too.

I didn't realise schools still had real ties, they were banned here years ago - they all have ones with velcro in the back of the band and are permanently tied. They look neater apparently when all the knots are the same, and of course the little darlings can't throttle each other with them.

surely that's dangerous? I wouldn't be happy trussing my lo up in ties and shirts. The school should let them wear collared t-shirts or something.

They'll have 60 years of wearing shirts and ties when they start work!

Shirts and ties are ridiculous on small children and my first instinct is to say yanbu but if your daughter didn't say she felt unwell, the teacher has to enforce school policy (even if she disagrees with it). Glad she is feeling better now.

It's a Catholic school so very traditional uniform.

She did tell the teacher that she felt too hot apparently.

My kids go to a Catholic school, and their uniform is school polo shirt, with dark trousers or skirt. No shirts or ties anywhere to be seen, thank goodness.

Iin the infant schools, it's just a fake "tie" on a piece of elastic. I sincerely doubt having her top button done up was the cause of her fainting, op. Any more than opening the button would have prevented it, and yes, of course they had to let you know

I would be annoyed with the school for having such a ridiculous uniform policy for 5 year olds

I always wore a shirt and real tie to school when I was in the infants. We could tie them within a few weeks of arriving and they never bothered us at all. They weren't dangerous at all and no-one batted an eyelid about wearing them.

My kids managed the whole of primary with proper shirts and proper ties.

Why wasn't she allowed to open her top button? Do they stop a 5 year old child from rolling sleeves up too if they're feeling hot? YANBU OP...

Don't want to go on about this but I was a bit pissed off when I went to collect the other 2 dd from same school and saw quite a few other children coming out with their buttons and ties undone......