To have little patience with Mr Manflu?

[mamhaf]

Aka Dh. He has a bug, but how I wish he would just stay in bed, dose up on paracetemol and suffer in silence.
No, for two days he's followed me around the house, snuffling and groaning, he came for a mother's day lunch yesterday with a face like a slapped arse.
I had said "I don't mind if you don't come if you don't feel up to it"

And the more I'm ignoring his moaning and groaning, the more he's pursuing me.
I put it down to the fact his mother used to make a massive fuss of him when he was ill as a child, but I don't do mother substitute.

Aargh, thank God I'm off to work soon.

Blimey. Will he be ok? Have you made him some soup in a flask?

You have my total sympathy. I've suffered, almost daily, from very painful IBS all my adult life. It hurts, it can be embarrassing and it can be very restrictive. However, I just get on with it as what would be the point in moaning. DP though has had a "bad tummy" since Sat (obviously nothing to do with the huge amounts of curry he put in there) and is sulking about, looking sorry for himself and making extremely theatrical sighs and groans every 15 mins or so just in case we haven't got the message. He does this every time he's "ill" and it drives me up the wall because most of the time we are talking minor ailments that may merit a passing nod of sympathy but not a bloody bells and whistles fuss all day - which I refuse to do. You can also guarantee that if he speaks to his mum he'll regale her with all the details of his "illness" and revert to pathetic little boy status so he gets a load of sympathy and concern from her as if he was at death's door. Bloody ridiculous ... and what he fails to appreciate is that it's like the boy who cried wolf - when he's genuinely ill, who's to know the difference ?

My DH is the same when he's ill, catsmother, I find it infuriating.

Another irritating thing my DH does too is if every I feel ill, he then says 'Yes I do too' and claims to be feeling the same way, or usually worse, than me! I can never, ever be the only one ill in our house, he won't let that happen. And guess who is the one out of the two of us that has to soldier on whilst ill?

God yes .... the competitive illness thing. I think that's partly the reason I rarely voice any discomfort because right on cue he'll chime in with some hitherto unmentioned ailment of his own and what I might lose in sympathy is far preferable to listening to him make something up on the spot when I feel I want to slap him. Okay .... I can accept that sometimes a bug or a cold does the rounds, but if I said I had period pains I can guarantee he'd refer to his back hurting or some such "equivalent". I personally feel he "evens out" feeling poorly like this before I get the chance to ask him to do something which is normally my "job". I feel as if I'm only ever allowed to be ill myself if I've literally had surgery because even he can't try to trump that.

Thank the gods that you have posted this thread, OP, and given me the opportunity to vent.

My DH has just gone off to work after 5 days of following me around the house, farting, belching, and looking increasingly pained at any suggestion he might take something to make him feel better, go to the doctor or go to bed. Looking betrayed every time I had something to eat, and farting away while I was eating it. Moaning about all the work he's missing. Ha! I'd love to have some time off sick from work, but as a SAHM, the work doesn't end, I don't get any time off sick. Last week, DS had the same D&V bug. My 20 month old acted less of a baby than my DH.

Yesterday, he spent practically the whole day in bed, despite the fact that his all night toilet performance had kept me up too. We have 4 bloody toilets in this house, but no, he couldn't use one of the others so we don't all end up awake. Happy fecking mothers day! I didn't get a break or a lie in, up before 6 He managed to stuff himself stupid last night though, and went off to work this morning a chirpy chappy, ready to be a Master of the Universe again. Leaving me doubled up with stomach cramps and nausea, because inevitably, now I have his bug, as does DD, who puked all over her bed at 5.30 this morning (guess who dealt with that). His parting comment was, why didn't I just send her off to school anyway. Twunt.

Yes, yes, I am no doubt being massively unfair to His Royal Poorliness, but I don't care. Am off to hang out today's 3rd load of vomitous items from the washing machine and see how my little troupers are doing.

catsmother, how funny, my DH does the back thing too if I ever complain of anything period related. My DH gets really annoyed if ever I'm ill, yet if he's ill he can just go off to bed and wallow there. Last week one evening once the younger DCs were in bed I felt a bit dizzy and headachey so I went and had a lie down in bed and watched tv. DH got back from a dog walk and was visibily annoyed that I had gone to bed so turned it round to being about some laundry that hadn't been put away and the fact that he too didn't feel well but it hadn't stopped him from going on the dogwalk.

The only times I've threatened divorce in our relationship have been when I've been unwell and he's been an arse!

What do all these H's do when it is pointed out to them that they are obviously hamming it up for the audience?

where mine rings his mother to try and get sympathy from her instead

MY dh had obviously double pnemonia last month but he was a brave solider and carried on regardless , sniffing and coughing following me around too with a URGHHH noise every time he breathed , really wound me up , IMo if you are so ill go to bed and get better ,

Mine did this yesterday. Wouldn't get up to go to church and the garden centre afterwards for coffee/scone (my mothers day treat) as he had sniffles. Spent yesterday feeling sorry for himself in the shed whilst I did all the work and cooking.

This morning he's fine and bouncing around as usual

Thank god I'm not alone. Mine does the competitive illness as well. Drives me insane!

people coming into work and playing the martyr do my head in as well. Whether it be manflu with all it's deaths door coughing and spluttering or women blaming being weapons on their time of the month. Just stfu and get on with it, if you're not well stay at home.

Hiddenhome - I wanted him to stay at home and not come out for lunch rather than ruin the occasion by acting like a wet rag.

But no, he manfully dosed up and followed me there too, then came around to friends in the evening where, surprise, surprise, he didn't mention his malady.

He is clearly mildly ill and has had a couple of disrupted nights, but fgs, either stay in bed or shut up about it and stop following me about!

He's off work sick today and is going to bed..but I'm out at work.

The daft thing is, he knows I won't turn into his mother, but something in his psyche makes him think I will morph into Mrs tea and sympathy for minor ailments.

WhereYouLeftIt ...... mine reacts extremely indignantly, to the point of petulant sulking for the rest of the day if I dare suggest he's exaggerating/being a baby or out and out fibbing. So, it's just not worth raising it because I don't want a row .... instead I just ignore him.

(Disclaimer: if he's genuinely ill I don't of course)

And do I feel guilty about that ? - do I heck .... after all, I get no sympathy, what with him leaping in every time to "even the score", which, as I said before is damage limitation on his part I'm sure so he doesn't have to get off his arse unduly, and, TBH, I also tend to think there's an element of childish jealousy there ... as if I don't "deserve" to be looked after once in a blue moon. He, on the other hand, does seem to be very "entitled" in that regard ... he too has a mother who overly fusses though