Mothers day judgement required please

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I have 3 DDs aged 11, 9 and 1

Dd1 took me out for breakfast, got me a card and some small presents.

Dd2 and dd3 got me nothing, not even a home made card. Ok DD3 is very small and it would have to be a dad job. Dd2, at age 9, is old enough to go to the shop and buy a card. Should I be annoyed with her? Or should I be annoyed with DH for not making sure they got me something ? Or am a such a woeful mother that it never crossed their mInds? Or AIBU to give a shit?

I think of it as it started. Refreshment Sunday to mark the half way point in Lent when there was a break in goodness and self deprivation. The DC (17 and 13) supervised by their father due to a blazing row a few years ago made sure they sent me a card.

DH brought me two cups of tea in bed and two slices of toasted fruit bread with butter. I have now poured my third glass of wine in honour of Refreshment Sunday - Life is Good .

To b honest dd2 is still quite young so I think I would probably b annoyed at their dad for not making sure they had stuff for u today. He could have taken her to the shop and I think he should have got or made u a card from your dd3.

dd1 is old enough to have got dd2 to sign the card... no reason to be annoyed with your husband, you are not his mother.

DD2 is only 9. My nine year old would never be at the shop alone, let alone have money that I would want him to spend on me. He did however make me a card.

My DH takes care of these things with the kids. I would not be angry with a child.

Yup, husband should have sorted it but most men are unimaginative and don't think about stuff like that. Hence why shops sell out of hideous tacky mothers day tat...

ds1 who is 13 didn't get me anything. dh and ds1 wouldn't come to church with me or go for a coffee and scone afterwards, so just me and ds2 went. I've spent the rest of the day doing housework and cooking for MIL coming over

My 9,7, and 5 yr olds made cards at school but I haven't actually got DS's yet as he "put it away safe" and has forgotten where - he was ever so upset, and we're hoping to find it soon. My 21 and 17 yr old never said a dicky bird, no2 son lives here and could have said something but didn't and my pfb has left home but could have phoned, visited, or even posted on FB but hasn't. Tomorrow I shall post "I had a lovely Mother's Day son, thank you for asking" on his FB and he probably won't even react to that either - he didn't last year, or for my birthday

Mixed views on this.

It's nice to be celebrated on Mothers Day as you have brought them up and fed them, clothed them etc and I presume been a really good Mum but at the same time children are forgetful. Perhaps dd2 didn't have a card making day at school and didn't see dd1 making a card so forgot it was going on. As far as dh he might've thought you wouldn't worry about something from dd3 as she is so little.

Not to say he is right of course - but it's a possibility.

MY 2 have always given me a joint card so its never been a problem your 9 yr old is a little young to be going to the shop maybe your 11 year old should have put all the names on the card regardless who bought it I do think a gentle reminder to your husband next year to make sure its all sorted , you dd will probably feel guilty her sister got you a card and she didnt