I have a dear friend who is one of those amazingly hard working, loyal, do anything for you type of people. She is the main earner in the family and works pretty long hours, so her "d" h does most nursery drop off and pick ups. Other than that she runs the household - meals, cleaning, laundry etc. if he ever has to be in charge of their Dd he just sticks her in front of the tv. She never gets a lie in or a treat. He never takes DD out so she can get on with anything- stays in the house an knows my friend will end up entertaining her (and therefore working into the night doing work or cleaning). Today she thought for mothers' day she might actually get a lie in or a cup of tea in bed, but no, she had to deal with a tantruming toddler. She deserves so much better than this. She is a feminist FFS! She was crying and so upset when I saw her this morning, I could just throttle him!