Hello ladies
I just want some unbiased opinions regarding my ?friend? and money. Abit of background my ex finished with me in the summer of 2008, I was devastated and needed to get away (we still worked together) so I suggested to my friend that we get away for a few days, whilst searching online I thought about Disneyland Paris, I had never been but she had and loved it, although she couldn?t afford it this time. As she was my best friend and had offered me a shoulder to cry on I offered to pay for both of us, she felt guilty and said she would pay a little towards the trip, we worked out that over the 5 day stay the park passes would be about £100 so this would be her contribution, I would pay for the Disney hotel and travel. We booked for sept 2008, she was going to pay me in instalments, we were both really excited and just before the trip went to get our euros together she was worried she didn?t have enough so I lent her an extra £100 just to tide her over (I am by no means made of money).
Her DP had agreed to drop us off at St Pancras and pick us up on our return, I gave him petrol money of course, we had a great time but on the last day her DP called to say he had been arrested for no licence, no tax and no insurance so we would have to make our own way back from St Pancras, I put both our tickets on my credit card again she said she would pay me back for her share (he had his day in court and was only served a fine)
Fast forward to feb 2009 my birth month and still not feeling my greatest I asked her about going again, same agreement for the 5 days she would contribute £100, we booked to go in march 2009 (so stupid as she hadn?t paid me a penny towards the last trip but I needed cheering up). We worked together and a few days before the holiday she had a call at work from her DP that the bailiffs had just been round threatening to take their things unless they paid them £400, she was crying and very upset so I offered to lend her the money, she seemed really grateful and said as soon as we got back she would set up a direct debit to start paying me back. The bailiffs were due to arrive whilst we were away and on that day she got a call from her DP, I heard her say ?of course I?ll have to tell her? when she hung up she told me that her partner had managed to sort out a repayment plan for the bailiffs and instead was going to use the money for a security course (that?s what he didn?t want her to tell me) she said once he had got his security licence and a job (she was the only one working he looked after their son) they would be able to pay me back quicker, I said nothing in hindsight I should have said I needed it back I was just shocked she didn?t ask if that was ok, I reasoned that him getting a job out of it would be a good thing, except he didn?t do any courses although he has since found a full time job but within another field
It works out at over £800 when I?ve mentioned it she says she will look over her finances but she should be able to afford £25 every two weeks, brilliant I thought but so far I?ve had a payment of one £25 (only received because she wanted to borrow a carpet cleaner from me and her offering up the money was an incentive for me to let her) and one £30 (again only received because I offered up my bank details to get the ball rolling).
During this time she has been to see that that, boyzone, and other things like soccer aid more times than I?ve had hot dinners, in march last year she seen boyzone 4 times once was even in Ireland so not cheap, her DP is into gadgets so wastes his money on that. I know its non of my business what they spend but when she claims poverty to me I cant help but feel upset. We were both made redundant last year and received redundancy money but I didn?t expect any of this.
We had a big barney in dec on fb over this (which led to her agreeing to my partner collecting £10 a week, I cant face her so far only received £10) and we haven?t spoken since, now this part makes me sound like a monster. Her DP?s dad was killed in a car crash just before Christmas 2010 and in autumn 2011 he received some inheritance money I don?t know how much but since then its been spend spend spend new tv at £1000 (she told my DP the price) new sofa, living room furniture ps3 (even though they already have an Xbox and wii - greed, I know shouldn?t judge) ipad, new phones plus other things. Now the big monster part - I seen on fb that they had booked to go to Disneyland Paris something inside me snapped and I let her have it with both barrels, I told her I thought she was taking the piss and that she should have paid me back by now, although she gave as good as she got.
If you?re still awake after that lot bless you, Jesus wept its long I guess I don?t know how to do gist?s, so is she a biatch or at least a cow? Or is it me?