Nuff said.
For mine, I spoke to my mother about it on Friday. Outlining my plans to stay home and be lazy. I gave her a big ole cuddle saying that I Loved Her very much and would see her on Monday.
But this morning, I got a call from my dad asking what our plans were and would we like to come in for dinner at 5?
DH immediately reacted in the negative, distracting me.
I said to dad that I would call him back once we had talked about it, but really I knew the answer was no thank you, I just didn't have the guts to come out with it.
20 mins later I called back, this time spoke to my mum.
Outlined again what we were doing, going swimming in town, then back home to relax, coming back in again is something I generally avoid (totally aware of fuel costs, I always try to only make one trip a day).
Really though, I just had my heart set on a nice relaxing day at home.
Going in for dinner means we would be there for 3 hour minimum (also always makes the children late down for bed) If we try to get away sooner, the guilt is on that we don't help with the clearing up.
Aaanyway, it did not go down well. she said, 'hmf, I knew this was coming. I know these are not your excuses anyway.' and then teh one really meant to get me 'I just thought it would be nice if we spent DSIS first mothers day together'
Whaaaat??
Ok aside from the fact that the guilt tripping to get me to toe the line is old hat for my parents, I had told them what I was doing, and I truly don't think my first mothers day was in anyway celebrated??
If that had been the plan, why was it not muted before the day?
Oh and on Friday my DSIS had also contacted me, and had also been told what I was planning.
Yet now I am being put under pressure?
It ended up with my not saying much more because I simply didn't react to the jibe.
Later, my dad called to say that my mum was upset because 'we never accept her offers'
Um, yes we do.
But they are better when a little more notice is given.
She and my DH have not got a great relationship. They have both developed paranoia that the other doesn't like them.
Though, my mothers snide remarks certainly don't help enamour her to my DH.
oh, there is just too much history to try to get down here.
But it has upset my day a little that they are playing their guilt games on me again.
I can see that this could easily be seen that IABU, it is only dinner, but it is the way that they do it.
The history of manipulating me to do as they wish, regardless of the fact I had plans, albeit that they were to be lazy.
This year I am trying to be strong, but it is hard 