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To want a black wedding ring?

70 replies

ComposHat · 17/03/2012 22:43

I discussed this with the fairly soon to be MrsComposhat. I would quite like a wedding ring, but don't particularly like gold or platinum rings as I think they look a bit shiny and flashy and don't really suit me. I did however see some black wedding rings that I thought looked less blingy.

I put this to the soon to be MrsC and she howled with laughter, claiming I'd look like the world's oldest emo and in a few years time it would look absurd. Does she have a point?

I thought a plain black band like this one

www.geti.cc/index.php?option=com_hikashop&ctrl=product&task=show&cid=10382&name=4004b&Itemid=135&category_pathway=17&related_product=10445

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ComposHat · 17/03/2012 23:57

Alas, most of the space on my forehead is taken up with my 'KILLER' tattoo.

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Tiddlyompompom · 17/03/2012 23:58

I have rose gold bands and it is a lovely colour when it's worn in (almost like a metallic skin colour), looks a bit too shiny copper when it's brand new tho, so don't be put off.

DH lost his band a year ago, I might check out Tungsten rings EvenBetter I sure as hell can't afford to replace his white gold one anymore!

NowWeKnow · 18/03/2012 00:04

My dh has a gold wedding ring but he wears one similar to this which is black with gold on his other hand more as a signet ring which I gave him for his 40th. It would also be nice as a wedding ring though. It's really hard wearing and has never scratched.

NowWeKnow · 18/03/2012 00:08

Also I'd say it's more very dark grey than black which might be an alternative to consider.

ComposHat · 18/03/2012 00:12

Dark grey, what metals would have that finish? I confess I am an amateur when it comes to this sort of thing!

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NowWeKnow · 18/03/2012 00:14

The one I linked to is tungsten carbide.

EvenBetter · 18/03/2012 00:53

It's gorge, I freely admit I'm judgemental and sneery about other peoples wedding rings and everything else but £35 for an undamagable ring is good!

Try on anything in a jewellers to get your size and see what width you want, then buy online!

youbethemummylion · 18/03/2012 07:00

My and my husbands wedding rings are rose gold with a thivk band of whitby jet in the middle, we like them and have never had issues with people thinking we are asexual. Designed them ourselves and a man in a tiny old fasjioned jewellers in whitby made them, quite cheap too.

LaurieFairyCake · 18/03/2012 07:04

I've seen quite a few of these recently - they are not black but a lovely matt grey. They are honestly really nice in real life.

go for it Smile Your new wifey's ring doesn't have to match either, dh has a gold ring and I have a platinum ring.

NoGoodAtHousework · 18/03/2012 07:08

When DP and I eventually get married he wants a carbon fibre ring and I may get a titanium and carbon fibre. You can find any weird and wonderful ones on eBay!

SaraBellumHertz · 18/03/2012 07:13

Definitely worlds oldest emo Grin

DH has a very thick heavy platinum band a bit like this in shape but heavier.

It has become a bit battered over the years and so not blingy at all. My dad remarked that it looks like a car part!

sashh · 18/03/2012 07:13

go for it, it's your choice. If your bride to be really hates the idea look at steel rings - not black but not shiny either

KingofHighVis · 18/03/2012 07:19

how about on e of these

Although for some reason can't help imagining someone who buys one of these as being the sort of person who insists on doing snarly rock-star poses in all the wedding photos.

And the 'rebel' on seems soooo 1990s.

tribpot · 18/03/2012 07:23

Love the comment about the world's oldest emo :) But I love some of the suggested rings on this thread, I would definitely have done something similar as I don't like shiny jewellery and don't wear yellow gold at all.

Hope you can find one you both like!

Kveta · 18/03/2012 07:27

dh has a palladium (?) wedding ring, and it has a brushed surface so didn't look too shiny (which was his objection to all the gold ones).

mine is white gold, plain as can be.

18 months on, they both look quite scuffed tbh, but well worn anyway, and not nearly as shiny as they were!

iloveminieggs · 18/03/2012 07:39

My DH also has palladium. Cheaper than platinum but from same family of metals. you get lots of choice such as brushed, matt or really shiny. Just bear in mind that some metals can be very heavy such as platinum so worth bearing in mind if you go for a wide band or if you have large fingers.

Rowgtfc72 · 18/03/2012 07:45

Soon to be dh (May 21st !) has a tungsten carbide and carbon fibre ring. Mine is titanium , silver and some black stuff ! We wanted something different and got them from unique jewellry. As op above said , you cant get them resized as Im finding out having lost just enough weight for it to fly off when it gets wet.

MrsHoarder · 18/03/2012 07:56

I'd presume you were in mourning unless you looked particually gothy. May have just spent too long reading Victorian literature though!

Fraktal · 18/03/2012 08:15

I have nothing useful to add but Blush at the black ring. I'm currently wearing my (black diamond) eternity ring on my middle finger waiting for it to be resized!

MinnieBar · 18/03/2012 08:17

I think as long as you go for a dark-silver kind of shade rather than black-black - and matt/brushed rather than shiny - oh, and quite wide too - then it'll look masculine and appropriate rather than sulky teen rebel.

Oh and congratulations! Is Soon-To-Be-MrsComposHat a MNer?

ComposHat · 18/03/2012 18:34

Thanks for the advice and best wishes everyone!

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electricalbanana · 18/03/2012 20:15

The current Mr Electricalbanana has a black wedding ring. Its made of paladium (i think that is how it is spelt) and its lovely. Mr E is a motorbike riding, black wearing rock god (in his dreams) and any personal embellishments makes him uneasy. So he wanted something which was "industrial" or something which looked like it had been part of his beloved bike.

we got it from birmingham.

MrsMeaner · 18/03/2012 20:17

What is the significance of a black ring?

The point of a gold or platinum ring is that they last forever and are very precious.

My wedding band is plain (as it should be) and not blingy at all. If you want even less bling than none, go for a very narrow band.

ComposHat · 18/03/2012 22:09

mrsm no significance attached to black, I just feel extremely selfconscious wearing anything flash. An expensive gold one I'd worry about osing/damaging as I am very clumsy.

electrical I am somewhat less rock than Mr E. I have once been described as dressing and looking like a younger more disheveled Alan Bennett. But the jewellery quarter in Brim might be well worth a look especially as I have family that way on.

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