To want to rip her head off?!

[finnbarr]

Apologies if this is a bit long...
So dsd is staying with us this weekend. She'd asked if she can have a friend over - no problem we say. So she invites said friend.
Friends mum says no because she hasn't met either me or DH. Fine, understandable. So I offer to meet up. Then dsd's friend says that the real reason is because her mum thinks DH is an alcoholic!!!!!!!!!! Completely unfounded btw and cannot believe this woman who has never met my DH!!!
Take the point that dsd's friend maybe shoul not have said anything but Aibu to want to go round, meet her and then tear a strip off her??!!!!

Thanks Angelico... I certainly wouldn't dream of doing anything like that in RL!!!

I find it gobsmacking how many people fail to read the OP before posting. YANBU to 'want' to rip this woman's head off, I'd feel exactly the same if some complete stranger was holding completely unwarranted derogatory opinions and possibly spreading them.
People who know you and your family aren't going to believe this, and if she's as unhinged as she sounds after your phone call then I doubt she's got many real life friends whose opinions could matter to you.

Ive been accused of:

stalking
sleeping with in laws
robbing elderly relative
poisoning the children's minds against their father
sleeping with friends husband
taking drugs
benefit fraud
hitting the children
animal cruelty

I could go on ......
The point is, this has been over face book and every other social next working thing - spread all round ex's family and on to my friends who of course tell me! I let it go, cant be bothered with it. There are always people who thrive on making others lives a misery because they have nothing good in their own lives so live off causing grief for attention

Malicious gossip is one of the most hateful things people are capable of IMO.

Often the folk who perpetrate it are using it as a smoke screen for their own less than savoury activities.

It's astonishing that some of us thought the OP should ask why the misunderstanding had happened, rather than being furious and wanting to 'rip her off a strip' ?
That's how I usually approach problems at first.
Of course, now we all know the other parent is unhinged and irrational and whatnot, we know that such an approach would probably be ineffective, and a threat of reporting her slander might work better.

But Coconutty the OP did say she was polite to the other Mum and I didn't pick up that she "demanded" to know the source.

Frankly, I'd have been asking the source too! All the better to know who to send the solicitor's letter to ...

That was tongue-in-cheek by the way about the solicitor's letter!

A threat wold work just as well probably!

No, I did answer the OP as written, I thought it was unreasonable to blame the woman when it could have been a simple misunderstanding.

As it turns out, the woman is clearly kind of barking and finbarr handled it perfectly reasonably. She's got Issues with a capital I, more to be pitied or sniggered about than despised I imagine. I still wouldn't take it personally, except maybe on behalf of her poor DD who is going to miss out on this and probably many other treats just because her mother is delusional opinionated. But it's fair enough to be angry.

Er, is your DH an alcoholic? [innocent]

No, he's not...he enjoys a beer as most of us do, but no, he has no issue with it...in fact we've not really been drinking at all recently as we're ttc!

Didn't think so, somehow! (Good luck with the ttc btw.)

Thanks Annie