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To think this is a bloody shite start to the weekend :-(

41 replies

mosschops30 · 16/03/2012 18:27

Dh comes home and nags me to ring interviewer from interview from wednesday 'so your not stressing all weekend' i said no

Then i told him about a job id seen working in a mortuary and thought it would be good at this point he starts 'god have you stopped taking the tabets Hmm you are absolutely bonkers, youve been like it over a week now, youre nuts'
I said 'its not acceptable to say that in front of the dcs'. He said 'see thats what i mean' Hmm
hes going out all day tomrrow surfing
Then said 'you dont want anything for mthers day do you?'

i feel iike booking into a travelodge on my own for the weekend Sad

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mosschops30 · 16/03/2012 18:28

Oh and dd hates me because i wont let er stay with a friend tomorrow night in a house with no parents!

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ThreeForTea · 16/03/2012 18:29

:( bit insensitive of him.

LindyHemming · 16/03/2012 18:29

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mosschops30 · 16/03/2012 18:32

Ive just said 'youve made me feel a bit shit, in fact youre being a bit if a shit'

He replied 'but you buy everything you want, so what do you want?'

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hopkin · 16/03/2012 18:32

What a prick.

mumatron · 16/03/2012 18:34

Book the hotel for yourself.

Cheeky sod.

3littlefrogs · 16/03/2012 18:35

He sounds charming.

Is he usually so rude and unpleasant?

Stick to your guns with dd. You are absolutely right and when she is a bit more grown up and sensible she will realise that.

Could you do a pamper day with your dd tomorrow? Go and do something frivolous together while he is surfing?

Gumby · 16/03/2012 18:36

Aw
Did you decide not to ring? I saw your other thread

Itsjustafleshwound · 16/03/2012 18:38

ignore, ignore, ignore - don't play his game

KenDoddsDadsDog · 16/03/2012 18:40

Buy yourself something. Not acceptable to speak like that in front of kids.

mosschops30 · 16/03/2012 18:42

Not an option with the two ds's and a kids party (joy)!

Hes not always a prick but in the last week hes getting to a new kevel of nob-dom!
Its probably because we havent had sex in a month, but the more nobby he is the more i dont want it.

I did phone but no answer, if its any consolation the other two i know havent been contacted either!

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mumatron · 16/03/2012 19:18

make sure you do something nice for your self then Moss

good luck with the job.

Petunia12 · 16/03/2012 20:01

'Then i told him about a job id seen working in a mortuary and thought it would be good at this point he starts 'god have you stopped taking the tabets hmm you are absolutely bonkers, youve been like it over a week now, youre nuts'
I said 'its not acceptable to say that in front of the dcs'. He said 'see thats what i mean' hmm
hes going out all day tomrrow surfing
Then said 'you dont want anything for mthers day do you?'

I'm no angel myself but I can't believe that's true!

No I do believe you. - Why shouldn't I. Do it. What you said. Book into a Travelodge - but tell all the friends and family you trust why you're doing it and just say that you'd be so pleased if they would come over while you were there and take you out. If it was me I'd be dropping hints all over to the admirers I might (not) have had to turn up too.

Can't really/don't really want to do it? Of course you don't. Never mind. Do it but do tell everybody that the whole exercise is not just because you're after your fifteen minutes of fame, it's something you're doing for YOU for once.

I think it's such a brilliant idea. No one gets hurt, just a little reminder to the one that obviously loves you most to please make an effort? No need for the Daffs because that's so obvious and easy.

Please. Just sometimes, even though you must feel so tired and dispirited with it all - just like me sometimes, please just think out of the box as to how to tell me you still love me, fancy me, need me? Whatever I might think of myself and how I look when I'm in vulnerable mode.

Hope that if you do decide to carry out your brilliant plan and the unthinking decent man you love gets the message.

The last bit wasn't meant to be your words, I just got to thinking what I'd say. Didn't mean to hijack your thread.

Take care. Whatever you decide to do, hope it all works out ok X

Stratters · 16/03/2012 20:09

I believe it too :(

I'd go away for the weekend personally. Or buy myself a large bunch of flowers, some chocolates and write a card. To myself.

Actually, I did do that the last Mother's Day before I kicked my XH out.

MrsTerryPratchett · 16/03/2012 20:14

Kid's party, well he can do that can't he? I agree with Stratters, buy yourself some lovely flowers. I bought a lovely watch from ExH for Christmas one year before we broke up. I still have the watch!

RuleBritannia · 16/03/2012 20:18

You don't get breakfasts at Travelodge, do you?

rhondajean · 16/03/2012 20:27

No but they are usually close to a macdonalds or similar.

mosschops30 · 16/03/2012 20:41

Unfortunately Wales are due to win the grand slam this weekend, i think hotels will be difficult to come by.
We are going away next weekend!

I think i will pull a christmas trick where he gives me his card to buy myself a little something extra and i blow £100 at the YSL counter.
Mmmmm Liz Earle counter, or maybe something nice in London next week Grin

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Petunia12 · 16/03/2012 21:06

All right, all right.

"I'd go away for the weekend personally. Or buy myself a large bunch of flowers, some chocolates and write a card. To myself.

Actually, I did do that the last Mother's Day before I kicked my XH out."

Mamma Mia! That's yer actual German you know. I'm just so shocked at how some people men/women are - if true I simply must get out more.

Buy yourself flowers? What a joke. Keep your dignity.

If what I said previously didn't appeal get off to London - you CAN get decent, clean, safe places to stay at reasonable prices. There's so much to see for free. Go with a friend but if she won't/can't go (Oh good!) just do it alone, you'll come back (in one piece) but utterly changed that you did it by yourself and you'll never let any one else who hasn't ever done anything like it tell you what to do ever again. X.

Stratters · 16/03/2012 21:10

Oh no Petunia.

It worked a treat, I have never seen so many red faced, ashamed people in my kitchen. Taught the DDs a very valuable do-not-neglect-your-mother lesson, and showed XH up a treat.

It wasn't done in a Poor Little Me way at all, I don't do Poor Little Me. I do Don't Fucking Mess With Me quite well though.

Petunia12 · 16/03/2012 21:58

'Don't Fucking Mess With Me quite well though.'

Wouldn't dream of it. Got quite enough other problems to mess with.

Sorry if you thought I was attacking you, it wasn't intended.

rhondajean · 16/03/2012 22:01

Moss isn't he a dick quite regularly, or have I confused you with another poster
?

Petunia12 · 16/03/2012 23:33

'Taught the DDs a very valuable do-not-neglect-your-mother lesson, and showed XH up a treat.'.

No crawling around you. If they needed a lesson in respect to their Mother it seems they got it.

Well done. Hope things are better between you all and hope they turn out to do you credit. X

Petunia12 · 17/03/2012 00:36

rhondajean: @ Moss isn't he a dick quite regularly, or have I confused you with another poster.

Rhonda. What a fantastic name. Nothing beats it for romanticism except for Myfanyie (I know that's not how you spell it)

Rhonda. - always call yourself that when abroad - all the middle class Welssschee wank**rs up there in Cardiff. Fighting to carve out a nice little earner from cradle to grave for themselves, sluts in tow, hoping to cash in on the backs of you. Those who could never, ever, hold a candle to the Welch pedigree you so casually sling around with your bag.

What's in a name? I fucking love your name. I love Wales. A part of our lovely Island that the rest of the world apparently can't wait to get into.

Er, I understand it's ok to get OTT and swear? There yer go then.

Ok I'm off again. No actually I know I'm off but bollocks and fuck it. I know it's got nothing to do with the thread but she shouldn't have told where she was by her thread. Her post is quite round the bend but you've gotta fall in love with her just for her name. Rhonda. The Rhonda. Where did it come from?

I bet she doesn't know.

I just see her on some windswept hill in a chiffon type wrap. Hand raised as the men rush down into certain death - but a death with honour. Then her. Choosing death before... Oh fuck me I'm in love!

Apparently it's ok to swear - what a REAL advance for women everywhere this is - galloping like Lemmings into the gutter...

Miss J. Brodie.

On no mission to save the world (hey! it's ok for women to swear!)

Don't honestly know why but it's not.

ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets · 17/03/2012 00:52

Petunia what are you on about?
Have I missed something as I'm really not following, you just seem to be talking to yourself?