To want to pull the phone out of the wall and switch off my mobile.....

[InsomniaQueen]

I'm currently pg (39+4) and the last 6 telephone calls have been to ask the same bloody question....."anything yet?

REALLY? REALLY?

I don't think people get the idea that a due date is a round about estimate.......if they we asking me at 42 weeks i would accept it but I haven't even managed to get to the due date and people are already hassling me!!

I'm happy as I am - have no reason to want to hurry things along and I'm fed up of being treated like a 'vessel'. Does no one care that I'm alive anymore? Do they not think it would be nice to discuss fun things they have done? Or fun things I've done? The answer seems to be a resounding no. Before I got pg I was a real person to these people - now I'm just the middle woman standing between them and a baby - their acting like I'm holding her in on purpose!!!! and

I had a friend text me, and then, when I didn't respond within 5 minutes, PHONE me to ask me if I was in labour, as she had a premonition that I was. - if I was, I would hardly want to be chatting on the phone to her about it, and if I wasn't (which I wasn't), I didn't need yet another bloody reminder that I was still pregnant and fecking uncomfortable.

harrumph on your behalf.

Don't answer the 'phone.

I know it's irritating but at least they care, imagine how awful it would be if nobody cared enough to drive you up the wall.

Well I'm sure they do care about you and not just the baby.

You're being OTT angry, but being that near to your due date, it's a little bit understandable!

Just tell them you'll let them know when you've had the baby and steer the conversation elsewhere. Try not to be rude to people who ask though.

I'm harrumphing on your behalf, too, and I've never even been 39wks pg!

Wrt your second paragraph, you may wish to start brushing up your feminism, as you're going to be needing it ...

Have a good birth :)

YANBU. I felt exactly as you do every day until DS turned up 10 days late (not to mention the flipping text-a-thon I was expected to have with 2 family members afterwards in agony) unplug your phone, set your mobile to voicemail change the message to "if you're phoning to see if I'm still pregnant, yes I am. If you're phoning for another reason please leave a message" come off facebook, don't answer the door. It's so frustrating when you're the person who most wants your baby to come when everyone else thinks your body is their business.

It is lovely that people care but let's face it its not you they care about its being the first to know you've given birth. It annoyed me so much (and yes I'm sure hormones have something to do with it but you do have feelings too) that I'm considering telling people my due date is 2 weeks later than it really is this time around or just giving them a time frame.

Get used to being a vessel by the way, once you have the baby nobody will say hello to you or speak to you directly ever again for a while.

Best of luck, hope all goes well whenever your baby decides to show up, and hope you get a little peace in the mean time

The thing is I accept that some 'people care' but for me that simply isn't the way to show it. My parents have both left the country on holiday and will be gone for the next week or so, most likely they will still be away when i give birth. It isnt a big deal for them to 'miss' the birth because I know they care without them ringing me up everyday. At no point during this pg have either of them rang me to ask about the baby other than is she ok. The rest of the conversation is about me, them, family stuff and things going on in the world - normal conversation!!!

It is DH's entire family that are doing my head in - as nice said they just want to be the first one to know that it's all started. The problem is - if I told them i would then have all of them calling and texting for updates which would then put me under pressure to reply rather than trying to relax and focus on labour.